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@nmay11 – Don’t text her everyday or drag out the conversations. Whenever she texts you, don’t ignore her, but send a short reply. After another week or so, ask if she would like to go out and do something fun. Don’t give up yet..
Yes, text her that you enjoyed seeing her and the time you spent together. Ask her if she would like to go to dinner, to a movie, or do something else fun. You know her better and would know the kinds of things she enjoys.
So I texted Ashley yesterday and said that “I really enjoyed our lunch, and I hope we can do something again sometime soon” I also added “have fun working your double today” (something she told me on our lunch.)
I’m pretty sure she was working when I texted her. But she never responded to my text.
@nmay11 – Give it time. Don’t text her again about it.
Me and Ashley haven’t texted since the meet up. I haven’t reached out to her except the text I told you I sent. I truly thought our lunch was really nice, and she seemed to enjoy it as well. So I guess I’m just confused
@nmay11 – It’s been less than a week since the meet up and only a few days since you texted her say you had a nice time etc. Give it time and be more patient.
So we haven’t spoken since the meetup. Today was my birthday. It’s 9:17pm, still nothing from her. This sucks so much.
@nmay11 – Happy belated birthday:) She’s probably still remembering how you used to treat her and your over involvement in playing video games. It’s only been about 3 weeks since the meet up and 18 days since you texted to say you enjoyed seeing her and hoped you could do something again soon. The day after you texted her, you wrote she didn’t respond and I’m assuming she still hasn’t responded or initiated any contact with you. I know it sucks, but don’t give up yet. Try writing one more text (maybe Monday) and ask to meet Sunday for an early dinner and a movie or something fun the following weekend. Wishing you much luck..
Just wanted to quickly follow up. I’ve been off of here for a while. I just needed to take a step back for a while.
I haven’t spoken to my ex since the meetup which was about two months ago. I needed to decompress and get my mind rights I felt I was still acting out of desperation. So I haven’t reached out to her at all. I still think about her every single day and I still know that she’s the one I want so badly. I’ve learned I don’t NEED her to be happy, but having her in my life makes me so so happy. So I guess I’m wondering what my next step should be. Should I just stay out of the picture for a bit and maybe we run into eachother somewhere and strike up a conversation? It feels impossible to generate meaningful conversation via text message, perhaps that’s wrong. My goal isn’t to force her to fall back in love with me. I want her to see I was wrong and so sorry and that I’m a much better person now. I just feel like any conversation will go back to the past. I want a future with this woman, as much as the past means to me, all I care about is a future with her.
Also, thank you for the belated birthday wish.
Speaking of that, her birthday is march 30th. So after not receiving a text on my birthday, I’ve contemplated not texting her? Or should I? I’m just lost at this point!
@nmay11 – Since you were together 2 years, I think you should send her happy birthday wishes. You could also include something like you want to take her out for a birthday lunch or dinner and to do something she would enjoy. She probably has plans for the day of her birthday, but you could ask when it would be convenient sometime before or after. If she agrees, you should be upbeat and use the time to ‘catch up’ and have fun. Do you know if she is seeing someone? Have you completely kicked the video game addiction? Have you really learned the lesson of not being controlling because you know it will drive away a partner .. and being too needy and insecure also ruins relationships? You’re not alone! Lots of people are going through the agony of break ups. I wish you the best of luck:)
Yes I have. The only thing that matters to me truly is winning her back. The controllingness, never admitting I’m wrong, and the video games it’s all gone. It doesn’t matter. I just miss her more than anything.
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