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@finntoga also I am pleased to tll you that I did NOT bombard him with messages 🙂 Only a time or two in the past 2.5 months and even then it wasn’t more than 10. Which for me is huge. And then it went down to 5, 4, 2, then 1 then 0 🙂
The OCD meds really helped me control my obsessions. And me sitting with my fears and anxiety even yesterday and choosing to wait for him to respond, well that really helped and also showed me he responds on his own 🙂I told you he needed more time : ). Honestly I am super glad you continued doing the work and that you got the OCD diagnosed and that is the most important thing here the work on yourself. Like I said from the start OCD, eating disorder, anxiety are all things that you can work on and over come the main thing is to do it slowly and not to concentrate on wrong things.Meaning you are the priority. I really wish you keep moving very slowly with your now current boyfriend: ) And just stop putting pressure on him and yourself and just keep communicating honestly and openly. I am really really happy that things have turn better for you which is what I always wished for you and I did believe that you could do it, though I must admit that towards the end I was sad that you seemed to slip back but pleased you did not. So pleased. I am glad you proved me wrong about bombarding him with messages : ) Must have been your stubborness ; ). Sadly Dragongirl was blocked but ask Kevin for our email addresses and you can update us on the progress. Well done girl so proud of you.
oh no! Dragongirl was blocked!? that’s horrible.
And yeah in May I was slipping back a lot. Then I had a reality check and really realized I needed to work more on my issues. And I didn’t want to bombard him with so many messages so gradually I sent fewer It took a while but I eventually got to sending 0 and then after some of that I sent an email and he contacted. Yeah I hope we move really slow too because I don’t want either of us to slide back into what we easily have slid back into multiple times. Yesterday I wanted to keep sending messages asking to make sure he was gonna come over but I resisted and it (to my surprise) worked on. Going to be honest I did take an anxiety med lol It is prescribed to me though haha. I’ll email kevin about the email addresses! I saw he commented on the post x.x
I needed to take a break and learn on my own though bc not you but others were being so intense with me and I was letting that trigger my ocd. And my obsession. I admit I am not perfect and have some way to go and I am determined to get there even if it doesn’t work out for him. For a while he would add me, read my stuff, and delete me, so then I stopped giving him stuff to read and I didn’t call him out on it. Just tried to keep myself calm. It surprisingly work. In May we def were both not in a healthy place and we will see if we can start working on stuff now. I hope so although I know we still have to work on us individually as well. Yeah neither one of us were ready. That was a huge mess! I literally had a terrible panic attack and then I started getting myself together and distracting myself, seeing friends, getting to know some friends more, visiting my NEW BABY NIECE BORN JUNE 11. She is beautiful 🙂 and getting more help for myself
I always said no one is perfect and it is not the point to be one. Just that you work on negative traits that were impacting negatively your life and relationships and to learn better relationship skills and I am so proud you are doing that and we kept telling you that even if you take time to work on yourself and not send so many messages that if he really loves you then he will not move on and I am glad now you are discovering yourself that not putting pressure and blowing up is making him opening up. So well done, this made me very happy to read because you were first person on this site I answered to and I did that cause I saw that there is stength behind the sadness and desperation and I was right and I like being right ; ). LOL. Keep up the great work and remember you can do anything you set your mind to and it does not have to be done perfectly as long as you just try and be proud of yur achievements you went to seek help when you needed it and that makes you stronger person than most on this site : ).
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