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he just gave me divorce papers and told me that theres more ill write in a few :'( I knew he wasnt coming back
Hey @aamls,
dont cry but now I think its time. You should ask him if this Is what he truely wants? Now I think you should tell him everything what you feel and that too when he’s actually in front of you. Tell him how sorry you are for what you did.
Its better to say all this rather regretting it later.12 years meant nothing to him. I cant face him and now hes taking me to court. he filed this morning. I feel like I hate him and everyone. I feel dead I feel overwhelm. If I face him it would be the same as I did in the beginning. if he was saying this stuff through the door to me then hes serious. I’ve officially lost my life. my question is why has he been acting this weird then? Im so hurt by all this. his mom all she says is your young your pretty blah blah blah. why is my husband doing this to me. I hate that I love him so much. :'( thanks guys anyone else have opinions to share with me. Im hopeless, why was he stalking me those times and why was he doing all this other things. I hate that I miss him. 🙁 ugh :'(
What you’re feeling is completely normal. But you have to face him and say everything your heart out. Ask him why he was doing all this we can only guess but he is the one who can tell you. Meet him and express your feelings. Make him believe that you won’t do this again. You still got a chance. Don’t miss it.
I agree with @divjun ..
I think you should go out with him .. and till him that you’re sorry .. and talk things through in a mature way .. no yelling .. no anger .. no crying .. you don’t want to seem so needy ..
plz stay strong 🙁
we are all here with you ^_^Right take control, sit down with him and have a good conversation. Remove your emotions think logically! You want him then get him you can do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks guys I dont know where I would be with out ya. 🙂 I honestly think he wont listen to me. I already apologized to him and all and nothing seem to work then thats when I found this site and it told me to do no contact and then it kinda worked and kinda didnt and now this is where Im at. he knows I still love him or he wouldnt of said I was looking at him like I was checking him out. I wish I could get him back but talking to him wouldnt make a difference and atm Im not even strong enough to face him emotionally. 🙁 :'(
btw he took my kids and has them now so talking to him wouldnt be possible and now I know why he said the gym thing wouldnt be a good idea because he did what he did. ugh idk what to do anymore. 🙁 I just lost him. :'(
You still got a chance. Don’t wait that long. And I feel if you wanna cry, cry in front of him. Ahow him how much you love him.
I am sorry mema for contradicting you. But this is what I feel. You have no time to show him that you’re not needy of his love. Its now or never. Atleast show him your true emotions so that he can see and think over it again.
I just heard from my mother in law. my sister in law was concern and knock on the door to check on me she never does this so it must be affecting her. my mother in law told me he called her to check on me. huh and that he asked her if she was on her game because she wasnt talking much. so she didnt say anything to him and she said he sounded mad. (im glad) any ways today my youngest drew a picture. I said whats that, she said im not going to tell you because your gonna get sad. I said no tell me, she said ok. she said I drew a picture of you and daddy in a restaurant. I want you and daddy to get back together. I told her before I knew of any of this I said promise you wont tell daddy (thinking that no contact was working) and well look what happened now. 🙁
Ok .. here is my favourite plan .. i used to do this before i met my bf after a big fight ..
go to your room .. and cry your eyes out .. think about every wrong thing he did .. every time he heart you .. and every beautiful moment you shared together .. and cry till you don’t have tears in your eyes.. i mean this literally ..
this will make you feel a little bit better i hope ..
then the next morning .. wear some make up so you eyes don’t look like you cried .. and meet him with the biggest smile you can have 😀
Can you do this?thanks mema, I hope I can, Im not sure what I can and cant do anymore. I hope he sees how hes affecting everyone involved, his mom sister the kids me everyone and how I have no one and makes him change his mind but I highly doubt this will happen. i wish I knew the way to get him back. this is so hard. 🙁
Aamls, I am so sorry to hear about the divorce papers. I think you should let your youngest tell him that she wants you to get back together. She is a part of the family and has a right to her feelings.
You need to start living for you. I know you are crushed by this pain, but remember God is close to the broken-hearted. He is near those who are crushed in spirit.
For now, you have a right to want what you want. And you don’t want your marriage to be over. That is perfectly reasonable. But you have to live your life as if you might not get what you want this time. So think of all of the things that you would want second, third, fourth, and work on getting those things.
I know this is hard because when the thing you want the very, very most in the whole world is taken away, it might seem like there is nothing else you do want. I know that feelings well. But dig deep, and take care of yourself first! You can do this!
Thanks Sunshine11. Im not sure if my youngest will tell him or not being he has both of them tonight. Im not feeling well at all im very emotional and overwhelm. what your saying makes sense. but im not sure if I can keep doing this. I hate him for putting me threw this. I thought it was getting better and he was doing one of 2 things, preparing for this moment by going to counseling and “giving me time to heal” I bet. hes so selfish and only cares about his feelings, I hope he never finds anyone again and if he does I hope he goes through hell with her. I hate hs guts as of now. Im so hurt that if it wasnt for this site who knows what would have been of me. funny thing is I have no one everyone turned a cold shoulder on me. I wish I could go with my dad. he passed away in July and he left me 2 weeks after that then on the day my dad turned a month of being passed away and a day before my birthday he told me he got the papers. 12 years meant crap to him and me like an idiot accepted him. ugh :'(
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