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@aamls we all are here to support you. You’re not alone. I know how you must be feeling right now. But I seriously think you should have a talk with him.
thanks divjun, whatever happens you all will be first to know. 🙂 I wish there was a way to get him back. :'(
could you somehow get her to take the drawing she did? and hed see it and ask questions? its going to be hard with you feeling those emotions to see him and for him to see you in a positive light. i hope you can do it. he does sound like a selfish person, but when someone is confused, i guess you can only expect this of them. its bad its progressed so far, and i wont the reason he wants a divorce. but its still fixable. it might require letting go of the marriage. i know it sounds horrible, but it shows youre ready to lead a happy life again, one that he may want to be a part of. its not like you cant get married again if things work out. ride it through, things will get better. you can make it work, dont try too hard. just do the right things. i know its easier said than done
thanks since they left already the drawing may have stayed here and I doubt he would question it unless she says something to him. he said threw the door for what I could here that he’ll be my friend that he will never trust me again and that we fight a lot, idk he said a bunch of crap. he also called his mother to ask how I was doing? what kind of crap is this? man i wanna cry again. :'( but I know what your saying and its true but I just wanna keep him. Im thinking of avoiding him but wont be able to in court. 🙁
i think one of the greatest lessons in life is that one of change and adaptability. i mean, if we couldnt adapt, we wouldnt survive. we have to change, to adapt to the situation. be stronger than it. you can do it, we all can. definitely harder in some circumstances, but still possible. if you know anything about quantum physics, you know that their is a world of infinite possibilities out there (infinite, really) anything could happen! just the likeliness of it occurring.. well, you have to set up the chain of events that lead to the change you want.
sucks you cant just get the court to rule that he has to stay with you hey! relationships are terrible verbal contracts.
he brought them over here with hair treatment. and well then he kept knocking on my door he then said he was gonna leave so I could come out. my oldest keeps calling him and telling him everything and that she wants to leave and hates it here ect. she keeps siding with him apparently. he didnt even say he was coming and what not. I think I should get a restraining order from him so he cant show up as he pleases. what do ya think? this is gonna end bad I see it already, why be nice to him when hes being an ass. I think he may be picking up my oldest not sure but thats also gonna stop soon because hes not gonna be allowed to get them whenever anymore. he even pulled my oldest out of school early. on top of that Im not signing his stupid papers, the judge can do that. he wants to get nasty then nasty we’ll get. ugh any thoughts on this?
I hate him and he keeps hurting me showing up still after giving me those papers like nothing happen what kinda shit is this? ugh I cant cope with this this is to painful and he doesnt care. funny thing is my oldest told him that I said they are selfish. lol she keeps siding with him and keeps trying to use things against me. shit that letter I gave him a while ago never meant anything to him. :'( thanks otherone for your words. :-/
i can completely understand how you feel but you should be nice for two reasons; one, you can be the bigger person. and that will be attractive (if hes into strong women) and two, you know it will make the situation worse than it has to be. i dont know if you should get a restraining order but things do need to calm down, you do NEED him to stop coming round for you both to have time to heal. it really is hard, but you must be civil with him at least if you cant just get him to stop coming round.
or you could do what you want to do, make the situation worse and hope it blows up so big, that it ends the situation (him coming round, not giving you time etc etc). you need time to yourself. this is extending your pain, i think.
im sure it meant something to him. i dont think feelings like love are easy to let go of. any time, hope i can be of help
I understand what your saying and its very true but im very hurt and he seems to not care as hes going forward with this. he has some horrible decision making as you can see. he never tried counseling with me he never came back to give it a try nothing. Im always being everyones door mat apparently and then I lose them all. ugh :'( is there anyway to make him stop or get him back? :'(
You should at least talk to him one last time. Lay it all out on the table, that’s the only advice I have for now. Think you really should just talk with him, just the two of you!
I wish I could give you some strenght right now. Your children and yourself are more important than anything in life. Remember the good times you shared and how far it got you. Nothing in life lasts forever but it will make you stronger. Do something that will make you feel better, you need it right now. When you wake up, decide that you refuse to think about your ex for one day. Think about yourself. Hes selfish, start doing it yourself because I think you give your ex too much credits he does not deserve.
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