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hi all . broke up with my ex gf 6 weeks ago. she left me because i had a problem with drugs . ive gone clean since we broke up and have done my best to turn my life around. we were together for nearly 5 years im 31 and she is 29.we were a very loving couple and our relationship was great but my drug habit caused alot of hurt towards her and she found it hard to trust me because i would lie about my drug habit. she tried to help me get off the drugs for a long time but decided to leave when i finally started my rehab. i guess she couldnt take it anymore. she said she still loved me when we broke up and the separation was hard on both of us. i begged her to stay with no luck. i tried to keep in contact with her for about a month but she always seemed abit cold towards me when i called her and when she came to get some of her stuff from my house she couldnt leave quick enough. she has still some of belongings in my house that seemed to be little reminders of her. dont know why she would leave them here. anyway 2 weeks ago i asked her if she was seeing someone else already after i saw a picture of her and a guy together on FB. she said sorry and promised the photo was totally innocent and she wasnt seeing anyone. this was the last time i had contact with her and its been 2 weeks. she doesnt seem to care how im going with my recovery . she told my mum that we may eventually get back together but that was right at the start of the break up. and she told me she cant guarntee we will get back together and she doesnt know if she will ever recover from all the hurt and lies i created. i dont know what to think. she seems happy and keeps busy when i check her FB. not sure if i should move on or keep hoping that we will get back together. ive obviously really hurt her and im not sure if she will ever forgive me. should i give up or should i continue the NC for a bit longer and try to engage her? please help cant stop thinking about her. sorry bout the long story
Ok I stopped reading at drugs. It’s really not fair to ask someone to be with you if you have an addiction but I admire your honesty.
First, please seek help with quitting drugs completely, for your sake especially. I’ve seen people ruin their lives and their parents’ lives and their friends desert them and they become isolated from the world because drugs takes full control of their lives and I don’t want you to become like that. YOu don’t want you to become like that. If you love yourself you’d treat yourself better than this. If you don’t love yourself then you can’t possibly love someone else and it isn’t fair on anyone to be with you like this.
I was in a relationship for years with someone who had drug addictions and although I helped him through it and he’s doing GREAT in his life my heart’s had enough so I just left because his hurt and lies washed away the love. YOu need to re-evaluate your life choices and then enter a relationship when you’re 100% recovered and 100% focused whether with her or someone else.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck.
thanks rihanna. i totally understand what you are saying. to be honest with you my break up with my ex has been the hardest thing ive gone through in my life. it has taught me that drugs are a terrible thing to get into and i no longer want anything to dobwith them. since the break up ive been clean and seeking help to get over my addiction. drugs arent even a factor in my life now. they have cost me to much. had to experience this pain and hurt to finally realise that i want to be drug free. and to not let them affect my relationships in the future. it has been a hard lesson to learn.
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