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Well, just to update you.
She called me and ended it again.
She told me still loved me but it shouldn’t be this hard, and that her gut was telling her something. I tried to say that it wasn’t going to be easy straight away and it would take a little time and we could work through it together but she said she didn’t want to. Said I was surprised she was giving up so soon.
I guess that’s probably it for me now. Kind of ends it doesn’t if we tried again and it didn’t work.
Hi Charlie
I’m sorry to hear that buddy keep your head up, just to keep you updated on my side I have got back with my ex so all is well sorry about your news buddy
We are in the same situation it seems. I would like us to help each other but you haven’t replied to me so :/
Much strength
Hi Charlie. I’m here. Sorry I deserted you. Still have nowhere to live and flat out looking for a place and trying to run the football club etc. Just meeting a friend here now but I’ll write a good long essay back in the morning. I promise
P.s. I just glanced over everything quickly when you sent them first. Beate of that friend. That guy. He is after her. She can’t see that. But he’s filing her with crap. Stay cool. You’ll get her.
You may have to play the long waiting game like me but don’t mention any problems again. And don’t be jealous or at least don’t act it.
Chat in the morningAnyway i will leave my recent thread here… we got back he broke up saying he doesnt feel enough to get in a commitment with me… do you also think i have a chance patrick?
He wants to break up AGAIN! please help urgent! gonna talk to him today KAILA
Was going to text her this:
Felicity-Jane,
I don’t know what’s happening, but I thought we were trying because we knew it was worth it. We were taking things slowly, and it was getting better. Every time I saw you it felt better, and I was happy to work through things with you. Slowly. Together. It was OK to feel how we did, why would you feel any different right now. I felt like we were actually communicating better than ever, we’ve been sharing our feelings and haven’t argued at all, and still had a beautiful time. We broke up for a reason, so of course we have to change things to improve.
You keep telling me all these weird things. You’ve changed one day, then not enough the next.
Honestly, I got scared at the weekend because things are a little bad at home, my parents are going through it. Doesn’t give me much stability.
When I text Liam a while back I told him I felt like I had lost my soulmate, and he responded with a text about ‘Not believing in soulmates, there are over 7 billion people in the world, how can you be compatible with just one……’
Fair enough I guess, but I’ve never loved anyone as much as you, and it makes me wonder. In those moments like on Sunday when you had your head on my shoulder or your hand in mine, it was literally like nothing else mattered. Those moments are all that matter to me, and all it needed to be right now. No commitment, no pressure. Just easy. I’m sad we let fear get in the way. All these outside sources planting doubt in our minds. We didn’t go dissecting everything when we were together. I wanted to choose love over fear.
I want you, all of you. The rough with the smooth. What we had was real love, and I’m sad to see you lose sight of that. You said you didn’t want to end up like Steph and Shane, and I wanted to tell you I wasn’t going to let that happen.
I’d love to keep going slow, but I guess you’ve made up your mind.
It’s probably worth mentioning she did say she doesn’t know if she’s making the biggest mistake by backing out, but she did say it shouldnt be this hard. I asked if she still loved me and she said yes. Said that she isn’t sure about her decision, but that she had to be.
Hi Charlie.
I had a great night. Just after having a big fight with her. So frustrating.
She doesn’t want to go on holiday with me at all but maybe with study guy. And he hates me although he doesn’t know me.
I said because he knows her side. She is convinced that she did nothing wrong. So I got angry. I’m outside for a walk.As for you. You really have to stop taking about problems. That’s what is making it hard.
Let her go for a bit. She doesn’t know what she is doing.When she makes contact again be cool and act as if you don’t care. You are probably close to not caring anyway. It really shouldn’t be this Hard. But to get her to change her mind is hard.
That friend is telling her crap. Ignore him but be aware of that. Don’t bad mouth him but you have to be the cool one. Prove him wrong by being cool.
If she acts like that then she is confused. Simple as that. And no amount of pushing her will change that. Just keep calm.
Stay off the drugs.and remember, you are a man. Act like one.
My one aid to me that maybe it’s betet of i go. So I stood up and Wales to the door. I took control. And she followed asking me to go for a walk and come back to talk.Be a man. You have nothing to lose. Be a bit mean. A bit stronger.
I’m tempted to walk to be honest. Tempted to head for London would you believe
Here is something I’m really thinking of right now as I walk in the rain.
When she was doing crap I didn’t like and when she wouldn’t stop, one of my best mates told me something.
He’s a great lad, highly intelligent, several successful businesses. But a country lad and we always took his advice with a pinch of salt because he is rough and loud.He told me ages ago that the most powerful thicana man can do is to be prepared to walk away and mean it.
Life shouldn’t be tough and if someone makes it tough then they aren’t worth it. Make them see that you’re a man and that they need you. Not the other way around.I’m tired of waiting Charlie. Tired of tip toeing. I’m prepared to walk now. her loss. Not mine.
Do the same.
P.s. I sent my email address to the administration here to send to youHi Patrick.
Sorry to hear about your fight. Just remember why you tried so hard in the first place. Has your relationship progressed any further? Walk if you need to mind. Sounds like you’ve got some people against you too.
Well, if you move to London let me know, we can flat share haha.
I don’t do drugs anymore. Hadn’t done for months. That one time was enough for me.
I guess I am close to walking, but only in the sense that I don’t know what to do now to bring things back round. Finding those messages hurt a lot, whatever they mean.
Do you think I should send that text?
‘I thought we were trying because we felt it was worth it. We were taking things slowly, and it was getting better. Every time I saw you it felt better, and I was happy to work through things with you. Slowly. Together. It was OK to feel how we did, why would you feel any different right now. I felt like we were actually communicating better than ever, we’ve been sharing our feelings and haven’t argued at all, and still had a nice time.
You keep telling me all these weird things. You’ve changed one day, then not enough the next.
We’ve had our wobbles, but there isn’t anything to fear, it’s just you and me.
When I text Liam a while back I told him I felt like I had lost my soulmate, and he responded with a text about ‘Not believing in soulmates, there are over 7 billion people in the world, how can you be compatible with just one……’
Fair enough I guess, but I’ve never loved anyone as much as you, and it makes me wonder. In those moments like on Sunday when you had your head on my shoulder or your hand in mine, it was literally like nothing else mattered. Those moments are all that matter to me, and all it needed to be right now. No commitment, no pressure. Just easy. Why let fear get in the way. All these outside sources planting doubt in our minds. We didn’t go dissecting everything when we were together. I wanted to choose love over fear.
I want you, all of you. The rough with the smooth. You said you didn’t want to end up like Steph and Shane, and I wanted to tell you I wasn’t going to let that happen.
I’d love to keep going slow, but I guess you’ve made up your mind. I don’t know who/what is making you feel like this, but I’d like to understand and maybe I can help.
You said you felt like you might be making a mistake. If you want to come and see me this weekend, but keep it between you and me, that’d be cool.’
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