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Sorry to be creeping in here, but I’ve been following this silently, and I just want to applaud you both for how insanely strong and tough you’re both being. ellie96, I seriously wish I had the strength and courage and self-respect to do what you’re doing. Kudos.
@ellie Thank you for your support! You’re right 🙂 Since our last meeting, It’s been a lot easier talking with him. I feel like I have more confidence around him and able to stay calm, I’m trying not to show him my weak side. I’ve also reached the point of not having the urge to contact him. And it worked well for some time until he began initiating again.
I agree. He knows how you feel so the best thing to do for now would be to stick to NC for a while. I’m sure you will hear from him, it doesn’t sound like he’s about to disappear from your life. It will just make him realize that he might lose you forever. Then the power would be in your hands. Stay strong! I wish you the best!
@Oshi Can you look at my newer post and read it a little and give me your opinion? Just read the highlights!
Hi guys!
Bit of news on my situation, since my last post! I’m confused at the moment. After I txt her to ask her on that hike, which she turned down. I have had no contact till this Thursday when she massaged me on facebook asking if I was going to this gig (I had put up a post saying I had a spare ticket)
I said I was and she would like to go as she had a day off! By the time she had messaged me I had sold my spare on. I said I could get another but she declined. My friend posted a few pictures of us at the gig, and one of me in black & white on Instagram on which she commented ‘this is a lovely photo x’ I find this strange as she hasn’t commented like that on anything of mine since our break up. This weekend I went away with a few friends and posted a few pics again she liked most of them. I’m finding it strange why she would like and comment all of the sudden. I’ve not been likeing or commenting on any of hers even though I’ve wanted to on a few occasions! Why do u think she has started to do this? Am I over thinking stuff or is she softening a bit? She also asked me why I didn’t txt her on Wednesday (I had arranged to pick up my old phone I had borrowed her)@Gingerone That sounds good! Looks like she’s softened up a bit. I think you should let her initiate more than you do, and see if she keeps initiating often. It’s great that she wants to hang out with you! I’m in the same situation right now. I’ve stopped initiating and contacting my ex about 2 weeks ago and since then he began to initiate conversations! I’m not initiating at all and he texted me twice already, once a week, and called me 2 days ago! which is really a progress from before. I’m not sure myself why he’s doing it. could be that he started missing me? or maybe he’s just trying to be friendly? It seems a bit odd because he contacted me twice this week. Just when I decide to give up on him he starts to initiate Lol xD
I do think it’s great, but we shouldn’t get our hopes up for now, not until we know their true intentions.@oshi I bet it’s all false hope! No idea how to play this now! Confused as what to do next do u think its best I wait and see how it plays out? Should I reply on the photo she commented on or leave it as it is!!! Ahhhhh
@Gingerone It really is hard and confusing. Could be that she’s trying to get your attention. So I think you should wait and see how it plays out.
@oshi your right best see how it plays out! Maybe she is reaching out, from no contact to a few facebook MSG’s and a comment and a few like’s on photos seems strange. But why hasn’t she done so again. Would she be upset I never commented back? If she doesn’t reach out again how should I go about it and how long should I wait before doing so @oshi ?
How is everything with u?
@Gingerone I think by not commenting it would make her think of you more. Maybe wait a few days and if she doesn’t initiate then you can be the one to initiate. Play it cool and stay calm.
As for me I’m having the worst day. Had some nightmares, and having these horrible thoughts about him being with someone else. I’ve accepted the fact that maybe I will have to move on. But these feelings and thoughts just making it so hard lol.
I know he’s not seeing anyone. He’s too busy with focusing on his work. So I guess it’s just one of those days. However I keep thinking if I should contact him just to check how he’s doing, because he was the one that initiated all of our recent conversations. I just don’t want to seem needy xDThanks @oshi I think I’m going to leave it a week or two before getting in contact with her. That way I’m hoping she might be asking herself the question why I haven’t got in touch.
Oh I feel for u, I had a strange dream about my ex a few nights ago. It was about her becoming ill. Try to remember these are only dreams. I hope your ok! The way I’m seeing things now is I’m getting on with my life, becoming a better person from the experiences of my last relationship and if she comes back great but if not I would have learned a valuable lesson.
Try to concentrate on yourself I know this sounds daft but if things are ment to be they will work out. Let me know how your getting on@Gingerone Yeah I’m sure she will be concerned and ask herself why haven’t you contacted her.
I’m trying to concentrate on myself but it’s hard doing it when he keeps calling me lol.
Yesterday when I had these thoughts about contacting him he called me again. It was late and I didn’t feel like talking to him so I called him back today. We talked for a while, laughing and such, then he ended the conversation and told me to keep in touch.
I just can’t understand him. Could be that he really wants us to stay friends but I’m not initiating at all and he keeps calling or texting me and making it sound like he’s doing me favor or something. I just don’t feel like talking to him at all anymore.@oshi I know how u feel 🙁
I’m having a bad day today, can’t seem to stop thinking about her, not sure if I should contact her
@oshi maybe there’s more too it, if he keeps contacting you
@Gingerone I know how you feel. Having these days myself lately. It’s best to remain positive and think that what needs to happen will happen, sometimes we just don’t have control over things but I’m sure that everything will turn out fine.
That’s what concerns me. He keeps contacting me but he doesn’t show any signs that he’s interested or anything. He’s just being friendly and that’s why I shouldn’t get my hopes up yet and keep moving forward.
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