Almost 2 weeks No Contact requested via email

@kr – What’s done is done, so don’t worry about the message you sent. Wanting kids someday is serious and if you’re at an age where you can’t have them or already have kids and don’t want anymore, I can understand him breaking up with you even though you loved each other. Take this time to accept the breakup and don’t hold on to the hope of getting back into a relationship with him. Love him enough to let him go. Being friends would break your heart even more as you learn of his falling in love, getting married, and having children with someone else. Better to cut all ties even though I know you will miss each other very much.

@kr – How old is he and how old are you? You said he has a child from a previous relationship, but did you mean .. from a marriage? I’m assuming you were agreeable to adoption or IVF, but you seem to wonder if you should have restated that kids were ok with you? Did you not give him the impression you were enthusiastic about it or did you leave him with doubts? And what is his time frame? What concerns me more is that he cited the age difference and also said you are “not each other’s best”. What is his concern about the age difference and what did he mean by saying you’re not each other’s best? Sorry, another question; has he been involved with the child he already has? If you two truly love each other and there were no major problems concerning too many arguments or differences in life style, interests, etc.. it seems the situation could be resolved one way or the other by another talk in which you both honestly reveal what’s in your hearts and minds. Since you already told him not to contact you and he’s honored your request, maybe next month when he comes over to pick up whatever he needs would be a good time for a sincere discussion. Or prior to the end of July after you’ve had more time to think logically about the pros and cons considering what he told you, then ask for a meet up somewhere. I know you’re very sad right now, but I pray all goes well for you no matter what happens.

@kr – Most often when a guy says a woman is too clingy, he means the woman is requesting too much of his time. Guys have other things they want and need to do such as visiting family, friends, errands, grocery shopping etc.. But most guys like the girlfriend to be very affectionate, so that part puzzles me. Anyway yes, maybe if he wants to start dating again, initially have fun and enjoy your time together. It will remind him of the early days (10+ months ago) when you first met each other. I’m a Christian too and pray often, but God has never given me definitive guidance in a matter, seems it was always how I felt about a situation. I’ve heard other Christians say they had a “sign” from God, but when I asked them to be more specific, it wasn’t a “voice” they heard, but their own thoughts guiding them.

I’m curious as to what the intense program was that stirred up a lot of feelings in you? Okay, sounds like you’re a romantic type person and maybe he isn’t as romantic as you were hoping he might be. Passion usually does fade somewhat after the “honeymoon” phase in a relationship of some length, but displays of affection remain throughout.. I’m sure you’re both missing each other and thinking of the good times too and I hope he comes to his senses, lol. Ten years age difference isn’t a deal breaker for most people unless there are major compatibility issues. To me it sounds like you were a good fit together:)

@kr – Okay, I see where he got the idea you were clingy. Sending 2 texts until he responded is going too far overboard. You could have waited to hear from him and then replied without dragging out the conversation via texting. And you could have sent an occasional text (one) and waited until he responded without becoming anxious about it. I know it only takes a few minutes to read a text and then reply, but most older guys don’t like to use texting as the main way to communicate. Teenagers and people in their 20’s text more often than grown ups, lol. He would have probably preferred to initiate phone calls (or had you call him sometimes) or face to face conversations. The thing is, the man still wants to do the chasing so to speak, but in a solid relationship, the lady can reach out to the guy more often, but not too much as to become annoying.

You wrote:”I told him on multiple occasions that I was not interested in interfering with his alone time”. Multiple occasions? Once or maybe even twice would have been enough! After that, a guy starts to feel a little guilty about not spending more time with his girlfriend, even though she didn’t request more time. A guy DOES like his alone time, but you don’t have to keep reminding him that you won’t interfere. It’s almost like a hidden request or hint..

Path through the Wilderness was probably intense and I understand you telling him he’s not responsible for your feelings, but guys seeing a sad damsel in distress want to help. It’s a natural instinct for a guy to try and rescue her. But if you were extremely depressed because of some of the things discussed in the program and then afterwards set it all on a plate in front of him, it could be that he finally reached the saturation point and became upset with too much of that type of sharing. I hope the program helped you sort through your feelings with all the topics covered:)

I have another suggestion; if you two get back together, you could ask to speak with a minister / pastor / priest about couples counseling and attend a few sessions if he’s agreeable to it. During one of the sessions, perhaps your ex will bring up his conversation with God.

I know being apart from someone you love is agony, but you’ll get through it.
I’m glad you’re spending time with friends too.

@KR – Glad you didn’t give the item to a friend to give to him as it will be a reason for him to get back in touch before the end of July. Sending an email with an attached photo and liking the photo on Facebook is an indication that he still thinks of you and that he’s not angry or upset. But maybe no more meaning to it than that. When he comes over to pick up the item, don’t initiate a serious discussion, but rather go with whatever he has to say about the relationship, if anything. If he doesn’t refer to it, maybe ask to go out sometime to have fun together thereby reducing the chance of feeling awkward about possible pressure to talk too much as in just having a beverage or meal where you’re sitting there together wondering what to say.

I have a friend whose ex broke up with her, but she remained friends with him. They went out to movies etc and had fun times. Many months later, he told her he felt the spark had been reignited due to all the happiness he felt again and told her he loved her. No official relationship yet, but maybe a lot of progress in that direction. I tell you this to let you know it’s possible to reconnect in a good way, but at the same time, don’t get your hopes up too high.

@KR – If you sent a thank you for the pet service van photo on 6/26, that’s contact even though he broke it to send the photo. I don’t exactly know what you mean by “window of opportunity” due to the fact if a guy still has feelings and wants to work things out and get back together, those feelings don’t just disappear overnight. On the other hand, if a guy is finished with a relationship and doesn’t want to continue, no amount of time will likely change his mind.

What is it that he needs to pick up before the end of this month? Is it an item that he really needs? If so, maybe send a text to ask when it would be convenient for him to pick it up. If you do this, only send ONE text and wait however long it takes for his reply. If he doesn’t reply, don’t ask again!