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    Dunndeal
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    I have just broken up with my parter after being together for 2 years. I didn’t want to, but felt that I had to as she wasn’t ready to commit further (moving in together). We’re in out mid 30’s and have with children between us (from previous relationships). We were talking about living together and even looked at houses together, but every time we looked at something, she always wanted me and my 2 year old daughter to move into her 2 bedroom house (far too small).
    She couldn’t leave the house, and finally today we came to to conclusion that it was due to her commitment issues. We agreed that we couldn’t continue as we wanted different things. The problem is that we both said that we still love each other and didn’t want to break our family apart, but we both felt the need to.
    I said that I couldn’t continue because I needed a bigger commitment from her, but she just can’t bring herself to do it. I don’t want to be apart from her at the same time, and I think that maybe she needs a bit of time to think about what she wants.

    How should I play this?

    #100495
    JeanValins
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    Sounds like she is not ready yet and yes she needs time, but for you it’s different, based on your story the one need to fix things is her, and if she do not want to fix anything then you need to find another partner

    For now give her time to rethink and after few days ask her out for dinner, ask her how she been doing , don’t mention living togather or anything relate to the problem you both had, she gonna mention it, if she didnt then finish the dinner and then be nice and walk away for few days until she hit you up

    Its my suggestion , and its up to you

    Good luck mate

    #100496
    y0ung
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    I agree, just give it some time and perhaps even come to a compromise? Good luck

    #102006
    Dunndeal
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    Hi,

    I gave her some space and only text her when we would text me.

    I’m happy to tell you that she did miss me, we’ve talked about our problems and are back together now.

    Thank you for the advice everyone

    #102015
    patricia12
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    Hurray! Congratulations:)

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