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Ok. thanks. The sooner the better i think. Then she can think of me maybe more. She gets stressed around exam time and usually stays in the room studying. She might realise what she is doing with hime and tell him to go away. Still hard to stop having the doubts that it might last
Ahh. Just got a Whats app message.
“Hey, how are you? All ok?”
Scared me actually. That’s on day 7 of NC. Wasn’t expecting anything for a while. I know it will hurt her when I don’t answer. But I have to be strong. Let her think that I am gone.
Omg that’s brilliant she has actually been thinking of you.
Follow the steps do not reply, If she texts again just put back what I said and then NC again.
Keep me updated, here amytime 🙂
Thanks @caz15
I really wasn’t expecting that. It’s almost 5pm here and that is a really unusual time of day for her to text me. Over the last few months it was always evenings or saturday afternoons when she would text. And I always replied within minutes or Maximum a few hours.
I will Keep you posted. Thanks so much for your help. It really made a difference. She is thinking of me and that makes me feel good and as if i am getting some power back@patrick d I’m sorry to say that but the fact that she has been sending you messages and updates on her life does not mean that she was “with you” all that time. Maybe she already drifted away and was emotionally detached – just didn’t know how to talk to you about this – it was hard for her also – and didn’t want to upset you. That is why she is “moving so fast” because the process has started some time before – not just now.
I’m saying that because of my own experience – you can see the details of my story and how it went over here:
Of course not every situation is the same but I’m just giving you something to think of.
I am happy that she has text you, now you see anything is possible, keep strong and do not respond until you are ready.
She is missing you but don’t let Her use you for her comfort.
You can do this 🙂 we are all behind you.
i have thought about that Long and hard. That happened then unhappened again. But now you have me doubting everything.
Same situation. My ex got angry that I was always jealous and didn’t trust him enough. i think it would be better to do no contact and give him time to think. If it was a rebound, then it’s not meant to last long. But sometimes, rebound relationships could also turn into something real, so at least still let her know you’re there but don’t push yourself on her.
@caz15 Got another text just now. I didn’t reply to yesterdays text.
“was worried yesterday. But I see your Posts on Facebook so you must be alive and well. Take care”
Should I answer that? Or leave it? Let her stew some more. BTW, I posted on Facebook to my sister about getting a part in a Play (very different for me). But in my area everybody is into arts and it turned into a big conversation and loads of likes.
Please advise. Should I send your message now or leave it? Think I should leave it
@caz15 I am obviously not ready to respond if i get butterflies and nervous. But that is a good sign isn’t it? At least she thought of me yesterday.
I guess this is the point of no contact. Let them feel what they are missing.I can’t help wondering though if this is really just her being friendly. What if I still have no Chance and like someone said, she was emotionally detached Long ago.
Definitely not if you are still like that! She is thinking of you and sees you are changing and doing things for you.
If she is trying to be friendly that’s ok but you keep up the NC, if she was emotionally detached she wouldn’t have text at all
Good Points. I suppose the word ‘worried’ would suggest that she is not emotionally detached. Probably is trying to be friendly. But I am only on day 8. We haven’t gone without a Chat for this Long in nearly 6 years. Maybe in another week she might start turning.
But would she not get angry now? Thinking maybe ‘what a dick’ for not replying?
Or is this the Point were she will start thinking what’s going on.
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