CRAZY EX STORY!!! Need advice asap

Hey everyone,

I first of foremost am going to say this is going to be a bit long because I think it’s important anyone helping me with this issue gets as much detail as possible. I’m also on a time crunch so I feel I need a solution or next move asap, here is my story, thanks so much for reading and responding.

Here is my story:

So I was dating a girl for two years, we were in our middle 20s and serious. We talked about marriage, the future, all that stuff very often.

Shortly after our two year anniversary I attended her brothers wedding. All was good, everyone was asking when we would get married, and she kept telling everyone soon.

Four days after the weddding, she broke up with me completely randomly. She said the reason was she saw how happy her brother was and we were not that. She was always one of those people that got extremely affected by other people’s happiness, engagements, marriages, etc. Basically everything turned into a “why not us/me” Pity party.

Not knowing whether to take it seriously or not, I just didn’t say anything. For weeks not knowing whether to take it seriously or not, I just didn’t say anything. four weeks later, a mutual friend told me they saw she was in a relationship. I was completely devastated. She had my phone number blocked but I found a way to contact her and and tell her she owed me some sort of explanation.

She did agree to meet up with me, but she essentially gave me all the typical answers. She would not address her new relationship except for telling me it was not going on behind my back. I thought that was kind of bullshit to not give more exclamation, when considering just over a month prior, she had been pressuring me to propose her, buy a house with her, and get a dog with her.

Anyway the next couple months we went through typical confusing relationship fallout. She would come over to my house and get stuff and then make excuses to stay. Even asked me to have beers with her, one never addressing our relationship and the break up. Finally I got so sick of it I just told her she couldn’t do this anymore. When I brought her relationship she got pissed and left my house.

I should also mention the entire time she would come over for things, she would unblock me and re-block me on Facebook. I had a close friend watching situation, basically she would change her picture away from her and her new guy and unblock me. And she would reblock me and change it back to him. So didn’t seem like she was trying to rub it in my face, but it definitely seemed like weird situation. Especially because she would get so pissed when I brought them all. There’s a difference between being mention the entire time she would comshe would unblock me and re-blocked me on Facebook. I had a close friend watching situation, basically she would change her picture away from her and her new guy and unblock me. And she would reblock me and change it back to him. So didn’t seem like she was trying to rub it in my face, but it definitely seemed like weird situation. There’s a difference between being mature, and getting upset because you’re wrong In some sense. That’s my opinion anyway.

Anyway after that I didn’t talk to her. I should also mention that I was extremely close with her dad, I had called him around the same time she came over that last time, and ironically he told me to pursue her. To tell her how I feel and that he thought we were next to get engaged and I was good for her. which actually blew my mind, because he knew his daughter was living with this guy. Also another detail, they moved in with each other after like a month of dating. What’s even more weird is her and I had split up for like a month just after year and a half of dating, and her dad actually told me to Move on. So I was extremely confused when he told me to go for her when he knew she was living with her new boyfriend.

So Labor Day week and I ended up texting or something stupid, and she was down to visit her best friend, probably drunk I assume, and sent some texs she probably shouldn’t have to me. After that she didn’t talk to me for a couple weeks. She finally knowledged that lines were crossed, but not specify what they were. Which was always so weird to me because I was single and she wasn’t, the line seem pretty clear. I didn’t know it, but at the time she did reach out to my best girlfriend, who’s only relationship to her was me, and helping us through things. At that point I got so sick of things I decided to write a really long letter. It it up being about 10 pages long, half of that was really critical, and half it was really nice. She did respond saying that she wasn’t in love with me and didn’t want to be with me, and that stalking her Facebook would not help me. Which I thought was kind of a comical respond when she was the one you did as well. Anyway at that point I did everything I could to move on, blocked her on everything and I actually met a girl that interested me. About a month after I sent my letter, my buddy was at a wedding with her and her new boyfriend told my buddy that they were having a ton of problems. Basically that their relationship was never that good to begin with. Kind of everything I predicted it was, A rebound that she couldn’t slow down from, and therefore rushed everything. A couple days after the wedding her dad started reaching out to me again, which was extremely weird. Basically telling me how much he was excited to keep in my life and how much he loved me. It was super fucked up and confusing, but I went with. I had an idea she was freaking out. Like I said she was going to pick up other people’s happiness. Her sister had gotten engaged in thatcher time and her brother was having a baby. Mix in a couple of things I knew that she was probably freaking out. I kind of called of that they would get engaged and they weren’t happy. And sure enough five days before Christmas it happened (8 months out of our two year relationship)I kind of laughed it was also devastated. I had a hard time not knowing if she was actually happy or just rushing to the next thing. It was tough to believe she was happy with me or if you had ever heard was that the relationship was miserable, directly from her now fiancé.

As for the engagement she pretty much immediately blocked me on Facebook. One of my buddies got drunk and trashed her and I think she took it very personally. A couple weeks later she unblocked me just for a day or two and then re-blocked me. And then like a day later got a dog. I was thought it was so weird she always unblock me for every major event. Anyway then a couple months after the dog she unblock me again, and then we got a house like three weeks later. I should mention that we were never friends, and she made all the posts private so I can never see them. I just heard it from Mutual friend. So she definitely wasn’t trying to ruin my face, but it seem like there was a pattern that she would unblock me before every major event. Like maybe she was subconsciously thinking about me? Anyway, her brother still makes efforts to reach out to me today and wants to meet up. I should mention that as I’m posting this today, her wedding is just over a month away. I feel like I’m in a very stuck. Part of me feels like it is serious she could be happy, but part of me feels like it’s a rebound because she’s a rush so much like stated in the article, and she’s always been one of those people that needs to catch up. She also dropped out of college and everyone else in her life has more than her. The one thing that throws me off is if she so happy and content, why does she keep unblocking me on Facebook and what not within months of her wedding? Again, she makes all the post with him private so it’s not as if she’s trying to rub it in my face. It just seems to me she doesn’t display the actions of someone who is happy or recently engaged, or even about to get married. But it especially pisses me off that she’s the one who scolded me for any social media activity and she still does it. I should also mention that after I wrote my letter I did not talk to her. So for the next six or seven months she would on block and re-block Me for no reason. Again, really weird activity for someone who claims to be so happy, or at least tries to make herself for me looks so happy. She also has a history of doing that, we could be on a break and she would post things to make herself/us look happy. Anyway the story at really long but that’s just it. I’m in a tough spot, I feel like there’s a lot of signs it could be real, while she also displays signs of of a rebound. I guess my question to anyone who responses tov this. Between the random social media stuff and the fact that family still reaches out to me, do I say something to her before her wedding? Or do I just let the cards live. Thanks to anyone who read my story, I can fill anyone anyone’s questions, and thank you so much for your response!