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I’m proud of you for realizing you don’t necessarily need a man to be happy! Continue no contact and self improvement in the needed areas. You can do this! Good luck:)
Thank you for the cheers Patricia. I actually had to contact him a day after my last update because he received an important letter. He kept the conversation going for two days straight. It seems like No Contact is working towards making him miss me and be afraid of not knowing about me. After the second day I decided to say goodbye because Im not interested in his life. Since that day I have not contacted him. I found Im very happy not talking to him. This No Contact is so easy for me now. I love it and I believe its working on me. Its providing me strength and happiness to move on. Cant wait for my next update.
Hi leidy1000,
I just wanted to pop in here because you have been helpful on my posts and I want to return the favor 🙂
First, I just want to say that you come across as an amazing, strong, and beautiful woman, and I am so proud of the work you’ve done. YOUR HAPPINESS should be your only priority right now, and I agree that your goal should be happy to be alone.
In my posts on here, I’ve only discussed my most recent relationship, which has been the best of my life. But my first serious relationship was extremely toxic and I acted out in anger against my then boyfriend in similar ways as you (numerous times, I hate to admit). I just want to say that since then, every relationship has been better. Hang in there – a relationship shouldn’t require you to behave that way in order for you to get what you want. Amazing men exist and would LOVE to give you what you want and need – I know because of my current ex, who is the most amazing man (person, in general) I’ve ever known 🙂
Thank you again for your advice. Please keep me updated on how you’re doing!
Thank you so much Sally. You are so right in some part he contributed on my crazyness. I feel like without him im mentally stable. I guess I recovered from his headaches haha. I have never thought that he made me that ogre. Thanks. Hopefully my next relationships are better when we turn 8 years together, because long term relationships get super hard.
Update: yesterday day 41 of NC my ex made a girl call his old number to make me jelouse or to find out if another man had his number. Idk his motive but the girl called him a specific name only his mother uses. It tells me that she is a family friend. Anyways day 42 NC he has contacted me. Ofcourse I will ignore him. He needs to see he lost me. Well atleast think haha. Will keep you guys updated.
How do you know the girl contacted him? And what does this mean?..”or to find out if another man had his number”
Glad you’re still doing no contact and I hope you’ve sought therapy for emotional control issues. IE: Ripping up his clothes and sending a picture of it..
Are you still going to school or did you graduate from college? Do you have a full time job that you enjoy? Keeping busy is important during no contact. Wish you good luck.
Hi Patricia thanks for answering. I wasn’t going to reply but at 5 he sent another message. Not to be rude I replied and kept conversation very short and didn’t keep the conversation going. At 7 I acted very busy and said goodnight. He asked what I was doing but I never replied. This NC worked on me because I feel like this conversation didn’t make me want him.
Yes Im still in college and yes I work but not fulltime. I do 25 hours only. Or else there will not be time for home work. However Im keeping busy. I am working hard on my weightloss and 2 days of the week my time off I spend on the mall.
I know the girl is his mom friend because of her voice and the name they call my ex. That name only his mother uses.
I’m glad you’re keeping busy. I wish you the best with your college studies and hope you’re making good grades too. Are you living with your parents? Working only 25 hours doesn’t seem like it would pay enough to support living on your own.
I’m still confused about how you know the girl contacted him, know that she called him the specific name his mom uses, or how you heard her voice? And what does it mean about a man having his number? There’s something I’m not understand and maybe it doesn’t even matter, LOL.
You said the conversation with your ex was short, but if it was from 5 to 7, that’s 2 hours and much too long. Anyway, glad you cut it off.
So far, so good. You’re doing great with no contact or minimal contact:)
Yes I live with my family. I only pay for my stuff.
I understand now. He used to be in my family plan so I took his number and transferred to another phone. She called that number and I picked up.
I actually replied at 6pm and I take 10-15 to answer one text.
I just assume he made the girl call to find out with someone else own that number. I really don’t know why she called. Her number is not on the phone calls records. That number belong to him for so many years, so I have lots of records.
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