feeling hopeless and confused

@KD1988 and @Mj I know you guys are right :/ but if you haven’t realized by now I am someone who would do anything for anyone. I never put myself first. It just makes everything so hard. But he has to realize my worth and I’m not helping him with that by sticking around. Ugh guys :'(

@Mj So you don’t think I am a bad person or do anything wrong?

DAY 12

Ok guys, I broke NC ON DAY 10 and 11 i lost my phone on sunday, so i called her on Monday to let her know she can reach me at my new number.

we talked on the phone for 11min it seemed like a positive conversation, which lead me to think of her through out Tuesday… so i woke up Wednesday morning i felt the need to let her know i have changed and i know what i did wrong during our relationship.

so i went to her house since i had a few hours before my meeting, i made sure i was looking good, i wore a suit i felt confident, i spelled good…. I know i wasn’t suppose to see her but i kinda followed my heart. lol

I called her when i got to her place she picked up. and we spoke on the phone for about 30mins, i told her all things i know i did wrong, i told her i want to take things slow and i took the blame for the break up. i eventually asked her to let me into the house that i have a letter for her. she did let me in, as soon as i got in she saw how well dressed i was and i gave her a really good hug, i couldn’t help it i missed her lol we held the hug for a while as if we missed each other.
she didn’t really put her hands on me she kinda hesitated, i could feel her hands but she had her head rested on my shoulders. then i pulled away and held her hips well i glanced at her face and kissed her on her chick she didn’t seem to mind. then we both smiled.

So i gave her the letter we talked for a bit i went to her room with her and i noticed she had the flowers i sent her during the breakup with my apology note and a teddy bear i gave her on her table. i was kinda happy she didn’t get rid of it. its obvious she still loves me.

Since she had to go to work i walked her to her car and we left.

What do you guys think should i try to message her every 3-4 days or wait a week or wait for her to message me while continuing NC until next month?

Thanks

hi guys!
I’ve noticed that my ex doesn’t want to break my heart nor the other girls heart. He says he wants to be with me, he sees the future with me, but he can’t seem to make up his mind. Im not speakign to him at the moment, giving him space and time and focusing on myself. Living my life and moving forward. Of course I want him back but should i tell him that i don’t want to compete for him that he can stay with her, that im out, or should i just wait and see what happens.

Im scared that if we ever get back together he will someday cheat on me with the same girl. I want him to end the relationship because he doesn’t feel anything for her.

It hurts so much that he can’t make up his mind between a 3 year serious relationship and a 2 month fling with someone he even denies is his gf. He dumped me like i was nothing, but he can’t seem to do the same with this girl.

@tygatyga Wait a week!

@lolita Just stick with NC. He isn’t being fair. He didn’t care too much about hurting you after 3 years. He just can’t make up his mind. Don’t talk to him at all until he figures his stuff up and break up with her!

that what im doing, not contacting him. If he texts, should i answer or ignore? if he calls should i pick up? or stick to NC and NO CONTACT AT ALL?

no contact at all!

The only way for him to realize that you’re gone and then realize your worth is to keep to minimum nc. This way you can prep him when you actually leave him too.