Boards No Contact Rule finished one month of NC still did not contacted by him

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    Anynomous
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    I am in no contact rule with Married Man Lover. I know its quite judgemental, but still we were in relationship of 1.5 years. Previously he was staying in different location with his wife and a baby child. He was my school friend and we met through online social site after a long period of time. We were not in committed relationship but we started loving each other love to spending time. During our first meeting we had quarrel between us as he was feeling quite insecure. When he returned back to his place he did not talk to me neither receiving calls and answering my texts for a week. I was keep calling him as I no idea about NC that time. After a week he received my call and said sorry for the argument in between us. He was telling me I am expecting huge from him so he got insecure so I minimized my calls and speak less to him..Sometimes he seemed very close to me and sometimes rigid. Always went for the silent treatment. I got hurt and started no contact rule. After 1.5 months he gave me call and asked for sorry and said he loved me so much, He tried to control himself but he was missing me so much and came to realize that he loves me so much but also he has the responsibility towards his wife annd child, He said he is not happy with job and looking for other opportunity. We were again in touch through calls and text messages. Then after three months we met in my city. This time he was quite decent but still tensed and was was not looking much into me also he got interview call for job in my city so planned for interview next day. When he went back I told him that emotionally he is not attached to me but I have the feelings. then he scolded me that i am expectig too much from him also he told he has been selected in interview and relocating in my city with his wife and his baby. He told he is now coming for me. when he came back after 2 months again I met with him . When I went back to my home i called him he seemed tensed and did not talk properly. After two days I called him he said we can only meet and call each other on favourable time when he will not with his family so not to call so much and expect from him. His wife and baby are coming to stay with him now. If i will keep calling him this will lead to divorce and he does not want to be separate from his child also he need to take care of his baby. I said him good bye and promised I wont call him but deep inside I was hurt so much as after every meeting repeatedly he behaved same even after saying sorry to me.
    I am in NC now . 1 month has passed on but still he did not contacted me.
    Will he return back?

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    patricia12
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    @anynomous – Please stop contacting and meeting him! He has a wife and child, then you on the side and this it not morally proper. There’s way to much drama. Sorry, I understand you have feelings, but you have to get over this as it will not end well for any of you. Surely you can find and date a single man.
    Don’t date married men!!

    #72993
    Anynomous
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    Thanks for the reply!!

    I know morally it’s not good and I am also trying to move on still it’s so hard. But what if he will come back and ask for sorry. Emotionally I will be weak again and at this moment I really don’t want to date anybody else as I have no faith on love now. I have been broken inside 🙁

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    patricia12
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    @anynomous – Take this time of no contact to heal your wounded heart, think through the fact that he might be playing you for a fool despite what he says, and get better and stronger. Words don’t mean much unless backed up by action. The only action he’s taking at this time is he will be living with his wife.. If he really loved you so much he would not stay married, but he will still be able to be involved with his child. Lots of divorced parents manage to have wonderfully close ties with their children. If he says sorry, it doesn’t mean anything! Only when and if he gets a divorce would be the time to talk things through. I understand you have no faith in love right now and don’t want to date, but over time you will get stronger and will be able to resist his temptations! There are wonderful single men out there that could give you the relationship you deserve which would restore your faith in love. Wishing you all the best and try your very best to get through this the best you can..

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