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This no contact stuff is no fun. I know it is something that must be done for any chance of my ex giving this another try.
Long story short – I messed things up by being a little insecure and having doubts about him. He didn’t really give me any reason to doubt him other than the fact he would say how much he cared etc but actions didn’t really match.
Never a jerk to me but just easy to give up on me – which would fuel the insecurities. Anyway, he eventually blocked me after he decided he was done with me but now we talk again but I am struggling because I want to be together, I want to get back to good and he is gun shy.
He actually doesn’t even want to talk about it says “let’s just talk with no pressure” and of course I agree but I know I am at risk of becoming needy etc. I think I need to no contact for some time to get myself in a place where I can handle that. I know right now I am at risk of texting something stupid and having him block me again. I can’t do that.
HELP. It was yesterday when he said yes let’s talk again with no pressure – basically open to friendship. This is torture. I was not expecting him to unblock me and talk to me. I wasn’t ready. I am happy I am not blocked but know I am not ready to talk to him as a friend.
a bit of a different scenario as I was just a mess texting him non-stop last week. the reason things were so tough for me was because I didn’t have closure when he ended things – he basically ended and I became this needy, insecure person making all the mistakes – ALL OF THEM IN A MAJOR WAY. so he blocked me ( I don’t blame him) I WAS BLOCKED FOR ABOUT A MONTH OR SO very surprised when he decided to talk to me again. I can’t mess this up.
NOW WHAT?
@thisisreal – I understand your anxiety and concerns, but you must NOT become needy again by texting so much etc.. Of course it will be difficult, but you need to control yourself! He broke up with you and is reluctant to get back with you for reasons you must know or suspect. The main thing now is to take it slow and be the person he once fell in love with. Let him know you want no contact for a month so you can adjust to the new situation.
Curious as to how long the relationship lasted? If it was for a long length of time and mostly very happy, maybe in time he would be more willing to try and reconcile.
** Remember, guys hate drama!
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