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Patricia, i appreciate your response too. I’m just not quite ready to shut her down until I have a more clear understanding and see how things can go. For the most part I’m over the hurt, and I’ve been hurt worse in the past. And ultimately she’s worth all of the effort
Don’t overwhelm her by initiating contacts. Let her be the one to reach out to you. Maybe she will change her mind and want to reunite, but don’t get your hopes up too high. Time will tell and you might reach a point where you realize she truly just wants a friendship. Then you’ll have to decide what to do.
Good luck.
Ive gone over to her place twice more now. We’ve gone on a car ride, and she’s sending me texts/initiating contact more frequently. She says she misses me, my cooking, doing things with me etc. But it seems like she’s still unsure. I think part of it is her son had a really hard time with the break up and she is hesitant to just flip flop and start things up with me again while he’s around. Im trying to just stay cool and keep rebuilding our connection while meanwhile getting out and doing things without her, especially things that we used to do. Still optimistic.
Hi Scotch, Im very happy everything its progressing. I applaud you for standing up for love. She said somethings but you saw love in her eyes and persevere to win her back. I really believe she loves you. Slowly but sure you guys will end up together. Can’t wait to see the next update.
I know I’m overreacting but it seems like right after I made this post she flipped a switch and is hardly talking. Like we were mid conversation. Oh well. Funny how 72hours seems like an eternity. She’s busy and stressed with work. Im trying not to bug her. I texted her a picture of ssome food I made and she asked where hers was, so I ended up dropping some off for her. That counts for something. 🙂 So I’ll give it another day. Thanks for the responses guys.
She said she didn’t want to lead you on and she doesn’t want to get back together with you. You think she seems unsure because of her son. How old is he? I’m sure they both miss you, but that doesn’t mean she wants to reconcile. Don’t try to rationalize everything she says or does as an indication that she wants to reunite. Optimism is good, but stay objective and look at things in a realistic fashion.
Texting so much won’t build up her attraction for you, but trying to resolve the issues you had might. Wishing you luck and keep us posted:)
Scotch, you sound super sweet. Don’t get discouraged by her actions. I know women. I am one, and sometimes we say things and we really mean others. We are very complicated. You know her more than us. I think you are doing a great job at showing her your love. Another man would just run away and meet other women. She sounds like a very sweet lady too, and worth fighting for. I really hope you guys can be together again, because you sound perfect for eachother.
Patricia said some interesting things but thats her point of view. I do believe that texting everyday has to stop. When you text everyday you tend to get used to it, and when she doesn’t text you miss those msgs alot. Its not doing you any favor. To feel miserable like that. Wishing you good luck. (; update us.
Big stories and updates asside, I spent more time with her. But something seemed a little different. There was a bottle of an alcohol she doesnt drink, in the kitchen. She ignored a phone call that morning and was careful that I didn’t see her phone. She has texted me less and less, and isn’t online as much. She asked when Id be off work to meet up, but then cancelled shortly after.
Tonight I see her car overnight at a guys house. (I was at a friend’s two houses down, and walked by on my way home.) He has, or had, a gf and kids so I’m not sure what’s going on but am assuming the worst. There’s no other real explanation for her being there at 3am. I know he texted and flirted with her at least once while she and I were together, and know he has cheated on his gf. But to my knowledge she never responded to it. Though she did spend time helping him sign up for a program though her work.
I realize I thought I was healed, but all this hurting….. Since I seemed to be making good progress with the plan, I had my hopes up. Im not going to over react or bring it up to her. And the best thing that I can probably do is initiate a second full no contact. Possibly for longer as Patricia suggested. And all I can do is hope this isnt what it seems, or hope its a failed rebound.
I still love her with all my heart. I feel horrible.
I want to just ask her, but should I? Maybe say it feels like shes getting more distant and just ask if shes seeing someone? Is knowing ultimately going to make me feel any better?
If shes with someone, do I still say she and i “cant just be friends” and drop contact, or would that now make me look immature and push her closer to him?Im very sorry Scotch. You definitely need a second round of NC. In that time maybe that rebound fails idk. With time now you will see whats next. An ex with another man will push you to move on. Our exes just takes us back to square one when they really want to. Thats why trying to win them back it’s a long process and very hard. I wish you the best on these next months. And do not get a rebound just to make her jelouse. Do not tell her anything. You will look like her needy ex. And will push her away.
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