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    mamateau
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    It’s been almost 3 months since i contacted my ex in any way. I’ve been moving on and focusing on myself. I’ve been genuinely happy if i’m gonna be honest but at the same time… I still think about my ex. I began to rely on this guy I began to have feelings for happiness and it blew up in my face. I moved on fast from that but the second that was over the thought of my ex started up again. When i was with the other guy before that failed, i was having fun and feeling good. I didn’t think about my ex at all really. I gave my ex all the gifts, notes and clothing he’s ever giving me and he couldn’t even look me in the eye. Later that week we ran into each other at my friends work and we didn’t say a word to each other. Didn’t really care though, he kept listening in on my conversations with my friends. He’s been with the same “rebound” girl for 3 months now and all i hear is that he’s extremely intimate with her since they first met but with her all the time. i’m not sure if they are serious or not but i try to distance myself from knowing. He also would constantly stalk my social media and ill see when he opens my stuff..? don’t know why he does that either. Fast forward to this past week, like i said i haven’t contacted him in months but recently his dog passed away and i texted him saying “hey.. hope all is well. i heard about austin (his dog we both loved) in so sorry. i know you loved him and as did i. hopefully we can catch up soon. xo.” and his reply was “thank you for that but as long as i im with aylin ( his girl), i don’t want to be affiliated with you.” and i was completely okay and kindly replied “i have no issue with her. happy for the both of you, don’t know your relationship with her nor is it any of my business. it’s a new year and i’d like to be civil with one another.” and i also added i would really like to take him out for lunch for his birthday next month but there’s no pressure and said with good intentions. all he said was “thank you but i’m going to pass on that offer. have a good night. ” he still won’t talk to me or see me. he holds up this guard and i don’t understand… yet hell stalk my media and see what i am doing.. i’m confused. i just want to be on good terms and start a fresh new relationship with the guy i truly loved.

    #72136

    patricia12
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    @mamateau – He’s trying to tell you in a nice way that he doesn’t want be around you. He has been with the other girl for 3 months, so stop contacting him. Lots of guys look at ex girlfriend social media out of curiosity, it doesn’t mean he wants to be with you. What happened with the other guy, too many arguments? You need to make yourself happy in life with or without a boyfriend..

    #72203

    mamateau
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    update.. i’ve been minding my own business as i have been for awhile now. i posted a collage video of 2016 and all my great memories with my friends and such.. obviously my ex is a huge part of that so i added a video of him and i just giving each other a kiss on our year anniversary. it wasn’t for attention or anything just simply he was a big part of 2016 and thought i was cute. i posted this post a week ago and just last night his new girl who has been with him for 2 months or something comments “move on” with a laughing face and my exs sister and her friends liked the comment.. i didn’t truly understand the purpose of that because she’s only known him for 3 months and just been having intercorse with him for 2 and not sure if they are dating. i on the other hand have dated him for over a year and we loved each other so so much it was crazy. i didn’t reply to her, i wrote her privately saying that “there’s no need for you to comment on my post, you’ve only known him for a few months, relax babe.” she never replied. then i get a message from my ex saying “i don’t understand why you had to post a video of us kissing but it’s caused a lot of meaningless drama so i would appreciate it if you don’t post anything with us kissing or doing anything in the manner for future references.” and i just replied 30 minutes later saying “this video isn’t about you, it’s about how amazing 2016 was for me, this is all in the past now. i didn’t cause any drama.. your friend did. she went out of her way to look up a post that i posted over a week ago to make a immature comment. you and her are very childish, especially her for commenting that i need to move on when she’s been in your life for what 2-3 months..? and we were in a serious relationship for over a year. sorry but it’s time you learn to grow up and mature. the way you’ve been treating me is beyond me, i don’t deserve that. i’ve moved on with my life and i’m happy. just because you still feel anger and resentment towards me and continuously try to bring me down by treating me like sh*t is utterly sad. i know you care but you’ll continue to pretend i never impacted your life or meant something to you. ill always be kind and write you friendly messages from the heart. i don’t need this unnecessary drama from people that can’t seem to grow up. you’ll always be very important to me, ill always care for you and you’ll always be my first love but i’m done. please don’t message me unless you have something nice to say.” the next morning he disregarded my whole message and just replied “like i said i would appreciate if you didn’t post us kissing or anything else in that manner on your instagram because it is not appropriate for the both of us.” and i decided to leave it and not reply.

    #72205

    Sansa
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    Yeah he sounds like a jerk. Keep your distance and focus on how well you’ve done. He’ll see that you’re the one that got away. He’s in the rebound phase

    #72225

    angiegirl68
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    I feel for you.. i was in a relationship for 14 yrs.he passed away.i went back to work and was asked out by my current ex many times within 6 months of his passing. He helped with my hurting and promised to stay by my side threw thick & thin. We wete together 4 yrs.In March we went out for St Patricks- i had a Fun buzz and he was in a grumpy mood.He left me- says i disrespected him. Not true.We saw each other for a week in May – he borrowed $500 for bills. – he changed his mind and hes out partying with his new friends on my $. Even wrote a contract hed pay it all by a certain date. Fought all summer- but hed call me..Talk nice- booty calls. Started seeing him again in Sept & Oct. But- doesnt pay.of course im mad. Completely breaks my heart again. Has thischick hanging out at his house – but they both swear theyre just friends.She lives with her babys daddy. Just straight outtreats me horribly..Im soo heart broken. I feel like im mourning again.I was soo hoping to get back with him. I feel very sorry for what youre going threw..Its soo hurtful

    #72253

    mamateau
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    ANOTHER MAJOR UPDATE GUYS… so i wrote about how his new girl commented on my post and he texted me. I haven’t been involved with either of them nor do i want to. I don’t talk to my ex at all anymore, the only time i did was to tell him i’m sorry about his dog passing away and that i hope we can catch up soon as friends. he then replied saying that he doesn’t want to be affiliated with me as long as he’s with aylin and i said that’s fine just thought i would message you. anyway so back to now his now “girlfriend” the one he’s known for only 2-3 months and has only been with her because of her b**b size and to be intimate with her, messaged me this long message saying “Last time I checked, he’s my boyfriend and your ex for a reason. So think about what you posted and how desperate and pathetic you look. Get over it and start moving on, babe. I don’t even think it’s possible to become a rebound after you lol you were a mistake or rather a “lesson” from which he learned from and we all know that. Now he knows that he deserves so much better than you. That’s why he’s with me. It’s funny how my boyfriend moved on from you in less than a month even though you guys were together for 2 years. That really shows how bad those 2 years with you were and that he should’ve broken up with you a long time ago. He does not hate you btw he just doesn’t care about you. You need to finally realize that. Stay with your groupies and keep on getting used by different guys as you’re probably already used to after so many years. It must be really hard for you to find a new guy with your special condition but that doesn’t mean that you can hit up my boyfriend. Stay away. Learn some respect for yourself and others.
    PS: He broke up with you so stop trying to associate with him. He’s mine. Don’t bother replying. This was just to put you back into your place.
    Hope you have a nice rest of the day 😉
    Goodbye.” and i was in utter shock but all i could do is feel bad for her. she looks pathetic and childish. i then replied, ” Wow, thank you. I really appreciate the time and energy you spent in writing me. You went far out of your way to write a kind, considerate and compassionate message. Unfortunately, it doesn’t effect me love, I truly find this to be hilarious. You’re so irrelevant to me babe. You clearly have no idea who i am or who he is. Your parents would be so proud. Just goes to show what a classy girl they’ve raised. Grow up hun, this is pathetic of you.. never will i sacrifice my class to even out with someone who has none. i’m walking away from this childish drama with my head held high. enjoy the gutter, ill be taking the high road. XO” and also turns out she’s trying to get at two of my friends but she’s been dating my ex for a month now…? lol

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