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This may be a whirlwind for most. I am trying to get my ex girlfriend back. The back ground: We have been best friends for about 12 years now, and I watched her get cheated on. Her ex cheated on her with her own mother. This broke the woman so hard and I was there to help get her through this. I got married but still stayed in contact with the woman. I ended up getting divorced and my friend and I started talking. We ended up dating Christmas day last year. Everything was perfect. Or so it seemed. I was put through a lot of mental and emotional abuse from my ex wife and the more I fell for my girlfriend, the more I got scared she would do the same. I love this woman more than I have ever loved anyone before. She was my best friend and I realized she is also my soul mate. I started to use a texting app to text my girlfriend pretending to be my ex wife in hopes of her hating my ex wife. Well this continues off and on our whole relationship till about a month ago. I come clean to her, and tell her everything. I have messaged a girl early in the relationship just because I knew she would message my girlfriend and tell her. I wanted and craved her attention so bad I went and done something stupid like that just to get her attention. I told her everything. We made up, but a couple days later she broke up with me because I was hiding the fact I was planning a surprise trip for our anniversary. I have had the no contact rule, I went weeks without talking to her, she would always contact me. When we would talk, I would ask her to be mine, apologize, and try to show her that I can be the man she wanted. Now she has me blocked on all social media but is constantly talking to my family and friends about me. I don’t know what to do. Try the no contact again? She will unblock me for a day or two then block me again. I need help! I would do anything to have this woman back. She is my soul mate and I would do anything.
@jnbutler901 – I’m amazed you would pretend to be your ex wife to try and get your girlfriend to hate her. And then to keep doing it for almost a year! Being scared or abuse from the ex wife is no excuse for what you did! You professed to love your girlfriend and yet you pulled this ridiculous charade! Wanting and craving her attention, even though you had it already also shows you to be insecure and having low self esteem. Until you can get to a place where your past experience won’t impact your current relationship and you can trust love, you shouldn’t even be in a relationship! Yes, go no contact and get help for your mental issues..
What a mess lol
Ok so, you came clean with her before she found out. That’s good. Then she broke up because you were hiding a surprise trip you were both going to take? I don’t get that part. A surprise trip is supposed to be a surprise, why would she break up because of that? Or was it that she felt she just couldn’t trust you any more given the other thing? If her ex cheated on her with her own mother, she is likely going to have VERY SERIOUS trust issues. You also have baggage because of your ex-wife’s behavior toward you.
It sounds messy now but honestly, I would expect that. As I said above, she will inevitably have serious trust issues given what happened to her. And you have relationship issues given what happened to you. You put the two together and you are going to get a lot of blocking on social media, no contact, etc. going back and forth.
So, what should you do? She’s blocked you so you are stuck until she contacts you. When she contacts you, explain that you have issues and she has issues and you both will need to work on them to make a relationship work. The relationship isn’t going to go smoothly until you both work out your issues. Maybe therapy together or talking things through really well, etc. I think there is a chance here but it is going to be a really bumpy road.
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