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Okay so in Jan I started dating this kid Brian. As stupid as it sounds I met him on tinder. We were PERFECT literally PERFECT. So in May like late May maybe mid June idk somewhere in there my ex Tyler snapped me a picture of him kissing a girl and it made me feel some type of way and I stupidly texted Tyler telling him I missed him and still loved him…Brian saw and broke up with me but a couple days later we got back together but it was never the same. In July we went out to the bar with tm coworkers and I brought Brian with me and apparently I was sitting to close to my guy coworker and Brian got upset and left me at the bar an dwheb he left i sent him a picture of me and my guy coworker I know so stupid and I fucked up but we got back together. in Aug Brian went to jersey to his summer house for 2 weeks and I was supposed to go but we decided to take a break but then the following Wednesday that he can’t back we met up and said we were gonna work on things So I went up to his school and we talked and then that weekend we went to his jersey house just for the weekend it was nice. The following weekend we went to Florida I paid for everything for him to fly down Bc I went t watch my Step dad play softball. So this is in September now the 14h if september. So September 28 he says he is done and just can’t do this anymore randomly. He blocked my number changed his number and blocked me on every social media. I went up to his school to talk to him and he told me he was done and don’t wanna be with me ever again. So I literally hit him up on everything making fake accounts contacting his family like going crazy and his friends like I was going nuts. I didn’t talk to him for a month. On Oct 21 I went up to his school again with my Step dad this time and this time when I went up he told me that he needs time and space to like focus on himself and basketball. So he did ask me like do you what my new number and I told him no and when he’s ready to text me so then that following Wednesday he texted me saying yo and I said who’s this and he said oh you don’t remember giving me your number like trying to catch me giving some guy my number whatever so he finally admitted it was him and we talked. The following Wednesday which was November 1 we met up and hung out and had sex and everything I got him a Halloween basket with like basketball shorts in it his fav candy and like $20 for gas or watever. We talked about us again he said he needs time. Of course he loves me and blah blah. So then on Saturday nov 4 he randomly stops answering me again and like I went crazy and blew up his phone like why aren’t u answering me and blah blah so then on Monday nov 6 I was like I wonder if I download tinder if I’ll find him sure as hell I did. So I bugged out and I was about to drive to his school again and I told my Step dad and I was calling Brian like to ask him an dof course he wasn’t answering so my step dad was calling him Too and so he finally texted me and I asked him whyd he was on tinder and he said he’s not meanwhile right in front of my face it was right there like he was on it all new pics from when I met him on it Bc we both deleted ours when we started dating. So watever so he said like give him the time and space he needs and he bets it will work best in my favor but yet he’s on tinder… so again me being crazy on the fake tinder I made I used some random girls pics that follows me in Instagram and like I swiped right in him to see if he would match me back and he did he message that account and everything flirting. Come to find out he used to go they tm phone and he saw her picture before and he knew it wasn’t the girl and I used a fake name and everything and he knew it was me so I admitted it was me and he told me like I hit the nail in the coffin and that he’s never going to get back together with me Bc he doesn’t trust me and he never will ever again and there’s nothing I can do to gain his trust back meanwhile I said I would change my number I would give him my passwords to every account I have I would even move in with my step dad which is in Levittown I would do anything and he said he doesn’t want to try anymore and he’s done. So I am where I am now non stop crying and I just want him back and to just prove to him like I love him and I need him and I’m sorry for everything I’ve done and he just won’t even talk or answer me at all. I’ve been in no contact since November 6! HELP!!
@samcustor – You are too immature for a relationship! While dating Brian, you sent a message to Tyler telling him you loved and missed him and that’s called emotional cheating. Since Brian broke up with you, you’ve pestered him to an extreme degree! Stop all contact with him. Stop showing uninvited and unannounced to his place! The poor guy is fed up with your childishness. Sorry, but you need to grow up before you’re ready to date again. Take some time to focus on your own life and then improve the way you interact with guys. It seems you’re not very mentally stable and professional therapy might help.
Good luck..@patricia12
I totally get what you’re saying and yeah I was immature at the time and that’s why I feel I need another chance to prove to him I have changed and I’ve matured and stuff like that would never happen again. Thank you for you’re advice.@Samcustor – I don’t think it’s possible to mature in less than a month! But I hope you have learned a valuable lesson through all this mess. Good luck..
You’ve been in no contact since Nov 6th…
Honestly, I would have thought that if you went no contact with him for 3 weeks he’d contact you. Did you post anything to your snapchat or instagram or anything with other guys in the pics? He has trust issues from you telling other guys you love them and all sorts of other stuff. If you posted stuff with other guys, he is not going to contact you.
If you only posted stuff to instagram and snapchat showing you work on yourself like at the gym or doing some sport event or with other girls but no guys except for your step dad or someone like that, you’d have a much better chance of him contacting you. He plays basketball, maybe post something of you playing basketball or watching a basketball game or something but not with any guys.
Now, the above isn’t no contact really. During no contact you aren’t supposed to post something for them to see. But I think this is a special case because he broke up with you mostly because of trust issues around what he saw as lies (fake tinder profiles, etc.). This break up may be a kind of test to see if you break up if you start going out with other guys again once you aren’t together. If you show you aren’t doing it and you show him you are working on yourself and making yourself better, it might get him to contact you. If that doesn’t work, continue no contact. I think he has to contact you at this point given the situation. If he doesn’t, work to move on.
@mr_the_ex he does have trust issues but now I️ am hearing he’s already “hooking up” with other girls. & it’s so hard with all the holidays going on and like I️t would have been our first holidays together. Im still continuing the no contact process. I have not posted pictures anywhere or anything and even if I did he wouldn’t see anything because he blocked me on everything but my number. He’s away at school so I️t along distance. At this point I have no idea what to do and it’s driving me crazy I hVe panic attacks every morning I can’t eat I can’t sleep.
What do you think you should do at this point? What would be the best for you? Do you think he cared about you as much as you did about him?
Anxiety, difficulty eating, sleeping and concentrating are common side effects of breaking up with someone. It goes away with time. Unfortunately, it is just a really difficult process.
@mr_the_ex I do believe he cared about me as much as I care about him, after what I did tho he just said he can’t trust me anymore and I don’t know how to regain his trust. I don’t know what more I can do. All I know is that he’s been going out to college parties and stuff and I don’t know how I feel about all of that it’s overwhelming.
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