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@pineappleblue how you getting on? Have you decided about your letter?
I think what’s helping me is giving up the idea that I can control things and giving up expectations… Instead of thinking oh I’ll send this letter and then she should contact me I’m thinking I’ll send this letter and see what happens. That way instead of thinking oh what if this happens or what if she does this I’m thinking that no matter what happens, even if she tells me she hates me and never even wants to talk again, I will deal with it…
So basically I’m trying to give up the idea that I need to be in control, you know? It’s up to her how she reacts, not me, all I can do is try my honest best to connect with her…
@annakis I think thats definitely the right way to look at it! Because its true, no matter how hard we try, if they dont want to come back, they wont. And lets be honest, if they didnt want to, would we want them to?
All everyone ever asks is the best of us. If that’s not enough then our efforts deserve to be reciprocated elsewhere. Hard to hear, but true.
@KD1988 No progress yet. Its day 31 today but i haven’t reached out yet. I thought long and hard about writing the letter but everyone, including his mum, told me i have nothing to apologise for and it was completely natural to want the things i wanted after 6 years. So so far i haven’t written anything..
I’m emptying out a storage unit tomorrow which has some of this things in, so i will send him a message to say i have it, and see what he comes back with. All i can do it go from there. How are you getting on?that sounds good. If there is no apology to be made then definitely don’t go making one!! You sound very strong and clear, which is brilliant. Yes go from there, it’s hard to predict things or know what to do, when you don’t know what outcome you might get from things, best to just go with the flow isn’t it.
Yes not bad thank you. Have felt a lot stronger these past couple of days. I know what went wrong in my relationship, and it was out of my control. I have worked really hard at sorting myself out, I know deep down he has feelings, he can’t meet me because of it, but I am just carrying on doing what I’m doing, and when we do eventually meet, he will see how much I have sorted myself out!That sounds really great, well done you! I’m glad you are feeling stronger! It sounds like your doing the right thing, keep it up! 🙂 🙂
Thanks, i do feel strong, and i know that he cares otherwise he wouldnt have acted the way he did, i just worry that maybe i’m clinging onto false hope. I really hope i am not but there is always that seed of doubt.
I had a dream of the breakup again last night, but for some reason it was in my office (wtf?!) and i was crying and begging and holding onto him to stop him from leaving, which is the complete opposite of what i did. I actually woke up crying it was that vivid. Not sure what that means?
I get what you mean about clinging onto the false hope. I think we all probably feel like that. In a weak moment I tend to think “WTF am I doing, it’s DONE” but then I think, well even if that was the case, I would still be doing the same things anyway. It just makes me feel a bit better lol.
ahhh I HATE dreams like that. You’re head just plays mind games on you so much doesn’t it. I have it all the time, except mine are normally about my ex coming over to mine with flowers, apologising for breaking it off and asking me to give it another go. In my dreams… literally lol
I feel stong at the moment, but I have to keep going over things in my head and petty much forcing myself to think positively, it’s hard!
I dunno what the dream means… The subconscious is a strange thing. But just from what you’ve said it just sounds like you don’t want to let him go!
I had an odd dream last night… In the dream I remembered that there was one connection that my ex and I still had, some way of talking. I think it was shaped like two white plastic electric hair curlers connected by a white cable… The dream was so vivid that I actually woke up and looked around my room trying to find it.
If you can interpret that nonsense I’d be surprised haha
@Annakis I’m the same. I have weak moments and I literally have to sit there and talk to myself. I tell myself to snap out of it, everything will be and IS fine, and then I do something to take my mind off it.
That is one weird dream lol. Maybe that was your subconscious talking to you trying to figure out a way of communicating with your ex
Wow, last night was one funky night for dreams. Yours sounds really deep. Have you tried looking on a dream dictionary for the vaguest connection, it might just answer it all.
When we first split up i had a dream about a nuclear bomb and a bomb shelter. I have never ever dreamt about anything like that before but when i looked it up it said that i felt something that meant everything to me was coming to an end and the bomb shelter was that i was trying to protect myself from my emotions. It was all so true it was creepy. I definitely think dreams are wonderful insights into our subconscious.
I definitely don’t want to let him go. I guess ill have a better idea come monday when i send the text.. either way! I’m feeling so impatient but nervous to get to Monday now though haha!
As much as I HATE the dreams I have about my ex, I do like how the subconscious works. I have had plenty of weird dreams. A lot of mine involve someone breaking into my house, and my ex stands there and watches and just walks away from me. I’m crying and scared and he looks at me, says sorry, then walks off and leaves me there. They are so real sometimes I actually think people are in my house lol. Hence I don’t get much sleep!!
I know how you feel hun, Monday will come round quickly!
@KD1988 Have you looked at that on the dream dictionary? I just search for being robbed and this is what comes up:
“To dream that you have been robbed indicates that you are experiencing an identity crisis or are suffering from some sort of loss in your life. Alternatively, the dream means that someone has stolen your success or has taken credit for something you did. Perhaps you feel that you have been treated unfairly.”
The fact you see your ex stajnding and watching and then leaving probably means you feel he’s abandoning you when you need him the most.Not a dream expert, just a thought! They all ring so true!
@KD1988 @pineappleblue what are your ex’s zodiac signs ? I started to become interested in zodiac signs after the break ups, his sign is scorpio and he just fits right in
They really do don’t they!! Yeah that makes perfect sense. I’ve lost someone very important to me (my ex) and he left me when I needed him the most. I don’t blame him for leaving, because he did the right thing, but I did feel abandoned after he said he would never give up on me, and that’s exactly what he did!
@Malinda his birthday is May 9th so think that makes him a Taurus?
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