Move on or Try to Make it work?

My girlfriend and I dated since we were 20, so its been just over 4 years! We had talked for years about spending our lives together and kids and all that. We had also dated years before, back in high school and broke up and found our way back to each other. But, last week she broke up with me, because she felt as if that she needed to try and see if she can live life on her own. We had been having troubles for about 4 months now, and we were trying to fix the problems in the relationship! But, neither of us really put much effort into fixing the problems beneath the surface, just the problems like not doing anything or just sitting around all day. Note: she wanted to leave back in August, but she also wanted to try and make things work!

Originally she had told me that she didn’t feel the same way she use to and that she didn’t know why, but she did know that she didn’t love me anymore! So we talked and agreed to work on things. There was a couple times in the 4 months where she wanted to leave and I convinced her to stay. But, there was also times when I wanted to leave and she convinced me to stay! But, this time enough was enough and she had it, so she packed up and left. I also haven’t had my license this whole relationship (currently working on getting it), She told me that she wanted me to get my shit together and that was one of the reasons she wanted to break up (I just never thought she would actually leave). But, now that she has left I know have to get my shit together. Not for her, but for me!

We are classifying this as a “break” with the chance of not getting back together and a chance of getting back together!

So we met last Sunday, to talk more about the break up and to get all of our feelings out on the table! When she picked me up, we talked as if nothing had changed and that we were still in a relationship. We ended up talking for over 2 hours and she didn’t really seem like she wanted to leave! She was extremely hungover and was the only reason she left. She even went to drop me off midway through and we sat in my driveway and we decided to go get food.

I told that we needed some time and space after the talk and that night she had tried snapchatting me and I told her that I wasn’t ready to talk. She understood and didn’t really seem ok with not talking, but she understood.

We had lived together for 4 years, and we lived in my parents basement. As I am a college student and can’t really afford to move out at this time! So, we had lived together for 4 years, and we got to the point where we stopped doing things and just sitting in my basement doing nothing! We also became dependent of each other for almost everything!

I feel like we have a good chance of getting back together, I know what I need to work on to make my life better and to make us have a better relationship. I have been getting a lot of mixed info from friends and family. Some say that she wants to get back together and some say I should move on (these people didn’t like her)

Just want to know what some strangers think?