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He’s the one who wanted to hang out a long time. He said he could picked me up early when we talked about it Sunday
I guess I really can’t handle him being hot/ cold. It’s never happened. And it makes me feel weird cause I’ve worked so hard for this and to get him back. This is one thing I’ve put a lot of effort into
He tries to strike a conversation…trying to behave as friends…asks me to accompany him for a cup of tea in the cafe…but talks about how great his life is post break-up, his parents are searching for a girl for marriage, he feels relieved after the break-up, etc etc…(i loose my cool when he says all this!)
I had Done NC for ten days after break-up..then we discussed the break-up, i suggested a patch-up, he did rethink once (beginning of December) – but with his own old same point of view – and decided a ‘no’ again…
Now – he shows that he is absolutely cool after the break-up…i sneak-peeked at his PC – he was checking out emotional blackmail details…!Later, he tried to talk to me regarding moving-on ()this was week back), said that he knows that I am too hurt and that I need help – He forced me to go to a counselor!..says he cares for me just d way he would care for any other colleague(which is not true, he does not bother so much about others)
Yesterday, I refused to go out for tea with him, i said not now, later.
I am scared of ‘what to say/ talk’ as no matter what I say, he finds a fault and displays hurt and makes a face and walks away.(Also, I read on a website that if I reject him now, he will feel bad and realize that he is going to loose me and come back. Do u think this will work?)
Besides, Is there a chance still (Looking at the situation)? or I should just let go!?
Just dunno what to do!?
I love him too dearly!! n I want him back!You can clearly get him back do that thing from the website he is already trying to get with you so make him chase you so you its his decision to be with you therefore he will be yours for real
@samuel what do you think of my situation? Do you have any advice for me? I’m stuck and I kinda know what do, but I want opinions and other insights on my situation
@confused girl
Your situation is much better then mine, just keep being independant he is starting to miss you try and make him chase you!
Idk if you read you read it all, but he did tell me he missed me at 4 in the morning. I want him to chase me, thing is, idk how to make him chase me
Oh yeah, he’s gone cold on me. I sent him a snapchat saying “my boobs are suffocating me” as a joke and he sent one back “I’m glad they aren’t anywhere near me.” I read I was like wtf did I do. I’m not talking to him for awhile. I don’t understand why he’s being mean and cold now. Can someone explain this?
Update: when we were going to hang out, he just told me he went to the movies with his rebound. And that when he wanted to hang out, he just wanted sex. I want to give up. This isn’t him. I thought I was finally getting him back I thought my work was actually doing something. I just want to give it all up. Why is being like this? 🙁 someone help
@samuel
Hey, thank u!
But the question is …how do I make him miss me when we are at work and we see each other almost all day?
next question…how should I make him feel rejected? (won’t he feel that I have moved on a take a sigh of relief!? that’s what he wanted right..)@ginie thats what he says he wants but once you show him you did he will probably come back
@confused girlIm sorry i realy cant say :/
This just isn’t him. Why would a guy do this?
Oh and he had the nerve to snapchat me again hours later, showing me a stupid knife he bought. Like Dude. I don’t care.
@samuel
sure… i am willing to show him that ‘I have moved on’…but HOW TO?n yes…one doubt – what if he thinks that ‘oh! good – u have moved on so soon. see, i knew – U never Loved me!!’
he did say something of this sort in the ten day NC after break-up day. He said that I did not talk to him as I did not care for the relationship!! I did not bother to contact him, or his family regarding patch-up; he also said that my family also does not care about the relationship!…he said that this is one of the reasons why he does not want to patch-up.
what to do???Your ex clearly wants to get back with you i guess if you maybe find a good way to tell him that he must fight to get you back
@confused girlI dont know why a guy would do that,im a guy but im not a player i seek love not fuck buddies so i could not say. Just make it clear to him that you want a relationship and if he dosent want that then im sorry to say but you’ll have to move on because this men dosent deserve you!
@samuel
How shud I find a good way to tell him that he must fight to get back?
Today, he is just casual..d way way he wud be with any other colleague…no care, no concern, nothing! he asked me for breakfast, n when I said ‘yes, lets go’ – he did not go; I did not follow-up…was my yesterday’s reply rude? so has he completely moved on!?He asked me whether I decorated the Christmas tree at my place like every year – I replied ” why do u wanna know?’ was this rude? do u think he has completely stopped being friends even from today onwards…
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