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Hi all,
I’m hoping to get some outside perspective on my situation. We have been seeing eachother for 2 months. It was going amazingly and he made me feel so happy until the last week he went really quiet/distant. He told me he was worried he can’t give me what I need by 100% commiting to me yet, as he doesn’t know if he is ready. He said meeting me has caught him off guard as he feels really strongly for me and hasn’t gotten on this well with a girl in a long time, but he wasn’t looking for a relationship as he has his own stuff he still needs to sort out. He has said he is so upset about this and will miss me just as much as I will miss him but it’s not fair on me. I’m gutted and really want him to see he is making a mistake. He is 24 and I am 27. We met each others family and he said he can’t believe he ever got the chance to be with me … so why is he walking away from it? Every day I just hope to receive a message from him telling me he regrets ending things.
When a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship, you have to believe him and you can’t change his mind. Two months isn’t long enough to really become connected. If you want a boyfriend someday, you should date other guys and don’t get involved so fast. Good luck..
I always feel like men say they aren’t ready for a relationship as an excuse. I’m confused what it is about a relationship they aren’t ready for?
Most often they’re not ready for one person as they enjoy dating others. Or they don’t want to devote time or energy to one person due to other reasons. It’s not an excuse, it’s the reason they feel they don’t want to commit. The more you try to pin a guy down, the farther he will run because it’s the man’s job to ask the lady to be in a relationship. If you’re the one who asked him for commitment, you seemed desperate and less desirable in his opinion. Date someone who in time would be willing to be a good boyfriend.
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