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@Nicholle
I have a feeling you’re the one who brought up the subject of ‘catching up’ soon. He probably said okay, but didn’t give a specific day to do it. I suggest if he agrees to meet up someday, that you ask him to bring your skis and you bring his things. That way it won’t seem like a pathetic ‘excuse’ to see him again later on. If he contacts you after that, it will show some interest level.For now, he is aware of the ‘catching up’ thing, so don’t start pressuring him to set a day. If he really wants to ‘catch up’ he will check back with you to let you know what days would be convenient. You need to learn self control about contacting him and not drag out talks over text.
After guys cheat, it’s likely to happen again. I hope he didn’t cheat on you, but there is no way to prove that he didn’t. It’s possible for a guy to move on quickly because most of them truly enjoy the company of women, it provides an ego boost, and if they can get sex, that’s even better. But there are also some guys out there who are seeking an exclusive loving relationship. Which one he is and what he’s looking for, I can’t say. Rebounds are likely to fizzle out, but sometimes the guy is happy and satisfied with the rebound woman and it can last an unknown amount of time.
You sound like a nice person who is trying to be supportive of his interests (like the boat) and I’m sure he appreciates it, but it doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to reconcile. You have to go slow, don’t act jealous of the other woman, and don’t pester him:) Wishing you much luck!
I really care about him. He was my best friend and the person I loved more than anything. It’s been almost 2 months and nothing has changed I still feel the same as I felt on day one. Some days are better than others, but overall I’m still obsessing over him. I miss telling him everything and I miss being able to go to him if I needed help with anything. The hardest part really is that I lost my best friend. I know he loved me I could tell by the way he looked at me and held me at night every single night even the night before he broke up with me. I think he still does love me and sometimes I feel like he’s waiting for me to text him that I miss him. We are very similar and I know how he thinks because its similar to the way I think. I’m expecting him to text me, but I think he is expecting me to text him. He is not the kind of person that likes to give in. I know he is currently with another girl, but I just don’t see him being into her like he was with me. I was very special to him and honestly he put up with a lot. 2 years is a long time to spend with somebody and then just forget about them like they were never there. It was even that we just spent two years together. We did everything together for those 2 years (tons of vacations, events, weddings, sleepovers every night, etc.) That is why I don’t think it is possible for him to be over me already. We really did have something good and we really did make each other happy. His parents loved me and considered me their daughter. I thought we were getting married for real and I’m pretty sure he thought so too.
Also to be honest, I would understand if he wanted to be single. I did smother him and he needed his own space, but he was never single. He started seeing a new girl right away and basically just filled my place with her.
I’m thinking about texting him and telling him I miss him because I think doing that is the only way I will have a chance at getting him back. I know this site and all relationship experts say to do the opposite but they also don’t know him.
@nicholle – If you didn’t say you missed him when you were talking about the boat, I suppose you should go ahead and tell him. It will probably put your mind at rest as doing everything you could. Let us know how it goes. Otherwise, wait until he contacts you about a meet up to exchange things and tell him at that time.
Sounds like you were great together, but just way too much togetherness! Only married people have that much time together. If you ever get another chance, don’t smother him or monopolize all his time.
I think we actually spent more time together than most married people lol. The amount of time we spent together was definitely too much and if we get back together I plan on allowing us both to have our own space. I haven’t told him I miss him yet. I want to text him and I feel like I should but at the same time I’m really nervous to do it. He’s a very sensitive person but I’m the only person who knows that. So I think that if I happened to text him at the right time when he was home alone in bed or something we could have a good conversation, but if I text him at the wrong time when he’s out with his friends the conversation wouldn’t go as good.
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