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    KD1988
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    So I sent my ex a letter. Just explaining that I accept the break up, that I’m sorry for how I reacted, where my head was at when we were together.

    This morning ive had this text
    “Thanks for the letter. Very grown up ๐Ÿ™‚ can I have your postcode so I can send one back? X”
    What should I do? Is this a good sign? Help please!!

    #37368
    KD1988
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    #37374
    kaila
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    Well. He is willing to put in effort for you so I think it is good. Now you just have to be patient and wait for it. That way you will know how he feels about stuff ๐Ÿ™‚ be strong. I know its hard. You can add me on kik if you want to talk kailak19

    #37379
    KD1988
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    @kaila he’s gonna send me one so that’s good. He said he wanted to return the favour. But I don’t think it will be what I want to hear. But trying to stay positive!!

    #37397
    Gingerone
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    That’s good. I’m hoping things go your way. If he wants your postcode to send a letter he must have something to say. I hope it’s what u want.

    I’m yet to give my letter, I was going to send it out then she txt me about final bills etc and I asked her out for coffee. She said it was a nice idea but she didn’t feel like she could. Which is fair enough. I said I would meet her quickly next week to sort out our final bills etc and I thought I might give it to her then. But now I’m thinking I might send it out next week and wait a few weeks till I see her to sort the bills. Wait till I’m ready. Not sure what to do?

    #37406
    KD1988
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    @gingerone

    He’s told me he has sent his letter to me and that he has so much respect for me sending him one. I don’t know what he wants to say, but I don’t think its gonna be a “we should get back together” letter. But at least I can then put it to bed and just move on.
    I don’t know, it might be good to give it to her when you see her! Then it’s done. I felt like a
    Weight had been lifted after sending mine!

    #37410
    Oshi
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    I’m in the same situation right now. Sent him a letter after NC and he told me that he sent one back, also thanked me for sending it.

    I’m afraid that the letter might be a goodbye letter, even though he was nice when we talked on the phone and I felt some mixed signals from him, maybe this could be just my imagination, so confused.

    Do you think that a response letter could be a good sign? or maybe if he wanted to get back together he would have just called already?

    #37418
    KD1988
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    @oshi I feel the same. I don’t know what to think about it. People have told me that its a good thing that he wants to send me one back, but I don’t think it will say what I want it to say!

    #37426
    Oshi
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    I think it’s a good thing in some way because it means that they took the time and effort to write back but I honestly can’t say if it would be positive or not..

    #37428
    KD1988
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    Nope. I don’t think he will say what I want, but at least he didn’t ignore me I guess

    #37456
    Mj
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    hey KD i completely missed this post sorry! hope i’m not too late.

    I’m glad to see that he had shown a positive reaction to your letter! Hopefully it ends up well.

    I on the other hand am not doing well, guess the signs she showed weren’t that positive after all.

    #37457
    Mj
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    Oh KD did you show us your letter before?

    #37458
    KD1988
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    @mj

    Part of me feels it’s positive, but part of me feels it’s going to be negative too. He just
    Kept saying he had a lot
    Of respect for me for doing it, but wanted to return the favour to me. I don’t think it’s going to be what I want to hear. But I just have to deal with that when it happens. I should receive his letter tomorrow.

    What’s happening with you?
    No, my letter basically just said I accepted the break up, I was sorry for how I reacted, I explained where my head was at when we were together and I hadn’t been in a good place, and that I had sorted myself out and was back to being me again.

    #37459
    Mj
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    It could also be him trying to be polite. Guess you will find out when you receive it tomorrow…

    I unintentionally saw the guy post of a pic of them together. I wasn’t stalking, and didn’t even follow him on Instagram. I just happened to see someone like it. I shouldn’t be affected but the thought of it just.. sucks

    #37460
    KD1988
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    @mj yeah I think he is just trying to be polite. But if that’s the case he’s not going to say anything different from what he said when we broke up. I prepared for that but now it’s come to it I will be crushed!!

    Oh no, I think anyone would be affected by that ๐Ÿ™ doesn’t necessarily mean anything though

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