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Help! My ex reached out to me for the first time in 3 months since we broke up asking me to get lunch with him because he missed me. At first he was very persistent with trying to find a date, however I was busy on the days he suggested. I was also trying to play hard to get and was a little mean. He eventually left me on read when I told him the day I was available. I decided the next day I was going to text him miss ya too and still he didn’t answer. The next day I reached out one last time to say that I wasn’t trying to blow him off and that I was just busy and I would still like to see him. He finally answered and said that we should meet up over break since I was busy. I replied and said well what are you plans for next week? He read it many hours later and never responded. We haven’t talked since. That was last weds. I don’t get why he reached out and then left me hanging. What should I do? Is he going to reach out to me again?
@kimsuzanne97 – You goofed up by playing hard to get and being mean. Okay, so now I don’t know if you owe him an apology or what, but you’ve reached out trying to reschedule. He answered saying you two should meet up over break. Then you asked his plans for next week and he didn’t answer. Now the ball is in his court. Wait for him to contact you again. It won’t be easy, but you have to be patient.
Good luck:)
I’m no expert here. In fact, I have my own thread with my own problem sitting next to yours. But I think he probably will contact you again. He did the first time after all. Something in his head/heart is telling him that he misses you. The less he gets to hear from you, I think the more he will miss you. My guess is that you playing hard to get was discouraging and frustrating to him, not that I blame you. He may also be afraid that if he is too persistent you’ll back away. Either way, he is still unsure and seems to be treading lightly. I think the best thing would be to wait until break to see if he contacts you. I think he will. If he doesn’t, and you would still like to talk to him, maybe contact him and lay it out there for him to decide. Tell him when you’re available, and that it would be nice if you could get together, but don’t come across as desperate. Instead, get yourself in a mature, in-control mindset before you text him. I’m a firm believer in the idea that people wear their emotions on their sleeves, even if they don’t mean to, especially to those who know them best.
Good luck. I wish you the best.
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