When to know she is gone for good?

Ok so I have posted before. No point in rehashing. I am wondering if you guys can help me out. I will try to be very brief.

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This is about the same girl I’ve posted on. So been 2 total years I’ve known her. I ended up essentially begging for 6+ months from dec – june or so to try and get back with her and she finally met up. So over the last few months we have been going out and for me things were progressing but slowly and never really liked I hoped. But I really love this girl so I tried to stick it out. Basically about 4 weeks ago we had an amazing time and got pretty intimate though maybe I pressured too hard, not sure. Next day I still see she had got onto online dating site and asked if we were exclusive and she said no she wasn’t sure if she wanted a relationship. I was hoping to talk some in person but asked when she would take down the online sites and became needier.

Eventually I got super sad one night in front of my friend and so he called her and told her that I loved her and she really needed to make a choice. Now my friend didn’t tell me he did this for 2 weeks and I stuck with no contact for 2 weeks but didn’t hear from her at all and eventually broke but she didn’t respond. Begged a couple more days and then my friend told me what he did and then I super begged and left a crying voice mail asking her to talk. She never responded. Sent a bunch of msgs and no response. Wait a few days then beg again for the last week daily to talk, for closure, explanation, whatever.

So then last night she finally responds via text. Says I should move on. Said she doesn’t want to settle down and wants to date other people. Says she has gone on dates but doesn’t want relationship and hasn’t been intimate I guess. Said she didn’t want to meet to talk because she doesn’t want to get back together with me (I was asking questions between each response from her). I ended by saying she was wrong and that I wasn’t looking to get married now or have kids now and that I hope she would consider meeting me once to give me a chance but if not then wished her well. She did not respond to that.

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Ok sorry if that was a little long. This girl has a history with me of being somewhat manipulative. And not sure how much of what she said is true. I’ve never done no contact and never given any indication that I am gone for good. Yes maybe she isn’t the right person for me I know. My friends say that but my heart doesn’t. My friend thinks she may be gone for good and perhaps was exaggerating but also wants me to move on.

She says she has gone on dates but not necessarily dating anyone and wants to be free to do as she pleases. She isn’t getting on any online dating sites anymore from what I can tell for some reason. I don’t know what to make of that if she has met someone or what. I am just extremely anxious and worried that she may be gone forever and the girl I loved so much may be gone.

Anyway what do you guys think? She has said the same exact words to me verbatim before around March/April this year as well as before and never did it end. I begged enough and kept silent just long enough and she contacted me. I just don’t know what to do and fear this may be the final straw. How would you know when it’s over and no contact will not work?

Thanks