He has moved on to a new girlfriend. And you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. After all, you are still madly in love with him. It can be a gut wrenching feeling to think about your ex boyfriend (who you still love with all your heart) in someone else’s arm. The idea that you might have lost him forever can be heart breaking.

"I don't know what he sees in that witch." - Jealous Ex Girlfriends All Over The World

“I don’t know what he sees in that witch.” – Jealous Ex Girlfriends All Over The World

Fortunately, you can still give it another try before completely giving up hope. Just because he has another girlfriend doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t win him over.

A Complete Guide

Before we begin, did you read my step by step guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back? If not, click here to read it now. It’s the most comprehensive guide you will find on the internet and it’s free. So go read that guide first and then come back to this page for advice pertaining to your situation.

(Note: Read this article if you are a guy looking to get his ex girlfriend back when she is dating someone else)

What we will talk about in this article.

Here are the things I’ll cover in this article.

  • What to do if it is a rebound relationship?
  • What to do if it’s not a rebound relationship and he has moved on?
  • Tactics to win him back from his new girlfriend
  • How to make him meet you.
  • What if his new girlfriend doesn’t let him talk to you?
  • How to make him leave his new girlfriend.

Is it a Rebound Relationship?

For all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. This new relationship could actually be just a rebound. As you might have heard before, rebound relationships usually end as quickly as they begin. In fact, statistics show that 90% of the rebound relationship end in a breakuprebound.

If this is the case, then you will have to let his rebound relationship run its course. He will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. If you try to interfere or try to convince him to breakup, then you are only going to make him want to stay in the relationship. All you have to do is follow the 5 Step Plan to get your ex back and you will most probably have him back in your arms.

Has he Really Moved On?

Perhaps it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. Perhaps his new girlfriend is not just a rebound but someone serious. Perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new relationship to work.

not_moved_onIf that’s the case, then I’ve got to ask you something. Why haven’t you moved on till now? What has been stopping you from moving on? Is it the fact that you still love your ex boyfriend? Have you even made any effort to move on?

Listen, there is still a chance to get him back. And that involves following the 5 step plan listed here with a few adjustments that I mention below. But the real question is, do you really want to sabotage his new relationship so you could give it another try? Do you really think that he will be happier with you than he is with his new girlfriend? If so, then read ahead.

How To Get Him Back From His New Girlfriend

Now, if he has a new girlfriend, and it’s not a rebound, then you have some serious trouble. Before we begin, I must warn you that your chances are very less and you should know that you might end up hurting yourself more.

The first thing that you need to do is stop contact with him. That’s right. I know it’s a little counter intuitive but it’s for the best. Yes, there is a chance that he might forget about you, but it’s a chance you have to take. Especially if you have been trying to contact him for a while. (Read Why You Should Wait Before Getting Your Ex Back).

After you’ve been in no contact for a while, it’s time to contact him again. However, you must know the timing has to be just right. If he stays in the relationship with his new girlfriend (who is not a rebound) for a long time, he will get more invested in that relationship and he will be less likely to come back to you. You will have to hit the sweet spot when it comes to timing. You have to give him just enough time to miss you, but not enough to completely forget about you.

How To Contact Him?

Text messages. I do recommend a letter in the 5 step plan, but if you are trying to get him back from his new girlfriend, text messages are the way to go (Read this article for a more detailed guide on texting your ex). The reason is simple, text messages are private and she is less likely to find out about them. Even if she does, she is breaching his privacy, which means less attraction points for her.

Remember, to build attraction slowly using text messages, as mentioned in this guide. Do not be direct with your intentions.

What if she does not let him talk or message you?

If your ex’s new girlfriend does not let him stay in contact with  you, and your ex boyfriend is agreeing to her, then this means that he has completely moved on and is heavily invested in his new girlfriend. Guys don’t usually let their girlfriends tell them who to contact unless they are serious about the relationship. (Note: If your ex boyfriend is refusing to talk to you read How To Get Your Ex Back When He Won’t Talk To You?)

At this point, there is nothing you can do. The more you try to contact him, the crazier you will look to him. The best thing to do in this case scenario is to move on. I am sorry to say this, but you really have no chance of getting him back unless they both breakup. You can sit and pray that they’d break up, but I wouldn’t count on that. It will be better to just cut your losses and try to move on.

How To Make Him Meet You?

Once you have established good communication with him via text messages and established that you are no longer a needy and clingy person, you should try to set up a meet. Again, don’t call it a date. Just keep it short and simple (as mentioned in the 5 step plan).

How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Breakup With His New Girlfriend

Unfortunately, you can’t make him breakup with his new girlfriend. It has to be his decision. Once you have gone out with him a few times, and he has seen the new and improved you, he will himself start wondering whether he should give it another go with you. This is assuming that you followed the step 3 in the 5 step plan(the no contact rule and working on yourself).

If you are confident enough, you can bring up the topic of getting back together yourself. However, make sure you don’t sleep with him unless he commits. You might have to ask him to choose between you and the new girl. Let him know that you can’t be friends with him and if he chooses her, then you can’t see him again. And you should stick to your words. If he does choose her, you should move on and remove him from your life completely. It might be the hardest thing you ever have to do but it’s the right thing for you. Remember, this whole thing was to just try getting him back one more time. If it didn’t work, you have to accept your loss and move on.

On the other hand, if he does choose you, then you should understand that the reason he chose you is because of the new and improved you. He chose the girl who is confident, happy, and secure. So if you want to keep him, you better keep those attributes as well.

By now, you should have a pretty good idea about what to do and how to get your ex boyfriend back. Again, if you haven’t read the 5 step plan to get your ex back, click here to read it now. It’s the most popular article on this website and I have seen this plan work time and time again. If you’ve already read it, here are a few more articles that I highly recommend you read.

Why You Should Wait Before Getting Your Ex Back

The No Contact Rule: Everything You Need To Know About It

Should You Get Your Ex Back?

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  • Sandra
    I love my ex so much but he has a girlfriend. He sometimes come to my place and ask to make love which I always say no. Recently I ask him to come back to me and he only told me that we both have moved on and I will only be his friend. I can't stabilise in any relationship because he is always in my heart and mind. I feel that he is only one my heart belongs to and hurts so much seeing him far from me. I need help. Thanks
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      Hi Sandra, It would be fair to yourself to at least spend time recovering and moving on since he already has a girlfriend. Even if you want to get back together with him in the future, at least work on your emotional state right now before trying anything.
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  • Eli Rose
    Okay so I have a situation myself that made me end up here .. Me and my ex always had little bumps in the road and whatnots but everything changed when we found out I was pregnant.. I’m madly in love with this guy.. but he was really undecided about everything so I finally lost it and broke up with him. It’s been just about a month (I’m going to be 3 months pregnant next week) and well throughout that whole month. He was still very iffy about what he wanted to do. I took pretty much any chance to talk to to give about it but I still never really understood anything. Until last night when we actually stood face to face. At first he started with “I’m really thinking about adoption and I don’t think we should get back together” from there he went to “ I love you but I’m still hurt about everything I need more time” from there I had my doubts because he didn’t stick to just one thing 😔 so I told him that I regret breaking up with him and how I know I can’t take things back but I’m 100% sure I can change and that I’m positive if we both try the relationship can be a healthy relationship. I told him that I haven’t even been able to go out with or even talk to friends because he’s honestly the only person I want to be around more than anything. From there I offered him my phone.. I told him that he can go through absolutely everything 😔 he refused to take my phone and from there he started acting funny .. and when I noticed he had been checking his phone more than anything I tried asking for it ... and for the first time ever he fought me for his phone. From there I just couldn’t think right .. the fact that i Legit been trying the most to work things out with him and he does that. So I asked him if he had a girlfriend if he was dating someone. He kept saying no and no. And I asked him not to lie to me. I told him that it hurts more when I’m lied to and it’s best to tell me the truth 😔💔 and he told me he was talking to this girl from work.. I was like okay so he told me and I asked to see the messages and he did ... I clearly saw that all the attention I was looking for he was giving to this girl that he’s been talking to for a month .. he tried telling me that it was multiple girls he was flirting with “because it’s what guys do” but it was clear that it was only her .. from there I asked if she’s his girlfriend if they’ve gone out, if they’ve kissed .. he answered them and he ended it telling me that she was nothing serious and that he’s only gone out to lunch with her. Of course it broke my heart and I semi lost it about I’m here carrying his baby and he’s out there telling people from work it’s not his and the attention I should’ve been given he was giving to someone else. Immediately his face completely changed. I told him if she’s the reason he’s been so distant if he has feelings for her . I’ll step away and leave him alone .. that I loved him enough to see him happy even if it wasn’t with me . And he stayed quite saying that this girl is nothing to him and he’d drop her like that. From there’s I just repeated that If I knew I honestly would’ve left him alone. But if he’s serious and willing to try the relationship again I’d really need him to try. He said yes. And I just stared at him because everything I just didn’t understand 😔 he hugged me and gave me a kiss and left ... our messages of course weren’t the way I wanted them to be.. on the other hand I can’t stop thinking that they’d send pictures to eachother send hearts kissy faces. He’d tell her how beautiful she is.. honestly killed me instead seeing the difference. this morning I asked him to come over and again he was really guarding his phone we cuddled on the couch, he’d kiss me, but it just didn’t feel right 😔 the things I’ve wanted back the most aren’t making me happy the way I thought it would .. so I tried to avoid everything . I tried to avoid that he’s hug me and check his phone behind my back .. until toward the end when he had to leave to work.. I asked if he wanted to come to my ultrasound next week and he said yes but he was just acting really really awkward. So I broke and asked him about the girl from work. He told me that he would talk to her today.. I looked at him and he just told me that she was asleep last night .. but that he’s tell her 😔 idunno it just seems to sketchy .. wouldn’t it be fine if he just left her a text message explaining everything? And then she’s gone ? .. nothing felt right .. i felt like maybe I said to much last night and he feels guilty .. so from his vibe I stopped him and told him he didn’t have to tell her if he didn’t want too.. that he could keep talking to her if he’d like.. and he looked at me and told me I’m cute but that he wanted to do it. I don’t know but he kissed me bye and told me he loved me and walked out .. but something about everything I just don’t have a good feeling about it
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      Hey Eli, For starters, I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through such a devastating situation. You deserve every bit of attention you need right now. However, it's best not to overthink things and if he says he will talk to her, perhaps let him be for now and see how it goes? You've enough on your plate without having to second guess every action or inaction that takes place.
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    • Eli Rose
      Thank you for telling me this. It calms me down a bit. But something happened last night. When again he keeps telling me he loves me. He took me into his apartment but then he leaves to a party and doesn’t come back until 2am.. I’m passed out on the restroom floor. And as soon as he came home everything just felt right.. he helped me up got me into his bed, cuddled me, kissed me.. everything felt perfect again 😔 until I looked over and saw him texting her and then sending “goodnight😘”. And it just made me lose all hope. Then when we woke up he wanted me to stay there and wait for him to come home.. but I told him that I had bought a ticket and I’m leaving town .. and that I thought it’d make things easier if I didn’t leave an option.. so that way I’m not constantly waiting for his answer. He stayed quiet and he just kept telling me that he didn’t want me to leave and that he just wants more time to pass 😔 but I told I couldn’t stay here and wait for a heart break
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      That's awfully strong of you to make the decision. I would have suggested the same thing. It's not healthy for you or the baby to go through this, even though it feels 'right' if you're constantly hurt in the process. Like I said before, you deserve every bit of attention but more importantly than that, you deserve to be happy. Since he has not stopped talking to her, it would be better if you not linger around with potentially false hope and end up hurt, over and over again.
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  • Neko
    I don't know what to do. I have been with this guy for 5 years and I just recently found out that he was cheating on me.he We had already been arguing and saying mean things but we always made things "better" I guess you could say he tells me that he still loves me and he told her that he still loves me and that he doesn't know what he wants anymore. He told me that there is still a chance that we can get back together or be good friends. But I really love him. I thought him cheating would make me hate him but I feel really lost.. it's good that he said he could never hate me right? I know it takes time and I know about the no contact rule. But I'm so afraid that he will never be with me again....
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      Hey there, When he says he still thinks there's a chance you guys can get back together, I hope he means it without the third party? Before you consider anything more, you have to be considerate to yourself and respect yourself. Would you want to continue and be fine with your boyfriend having a third wheel?
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  • Nina
    Hello. There is this boy that I have been with for a year. We loved each other a lot but then some stuff happened and he broke up with me. A week or 2 later he's with this girl that he says he loves. Though he told me not to tell her that he still loves me. In the end, he wants to stay with her even though he really loves me. I'm always around him and she lives like 2 hours away so he spends more time and texts me more than her. I tried telling him that I think he's confused but he won't listen. What should I do to let him know that I love him and that he should just stop and come back?
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      Hi Nina, Perhaps he's going through a rebound with her? In that case, I suggest applying the no contact rule to let him figure that out by himself. You shouldn't interfere with a rebound as he might resent you for it and think you're trying to manipulate him. If he still loves you, he will come back eventually.
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  • Rosa
    Dear Kevin. I have been dating this guy for 3 years. Then about four months ago I started suspecting he was cheating on me with some girl he met in a whatsapp group we share. When I kept confronting him about his flirting with her, he denied it, till he eventually dumped me two weeks ago, saying he doesn't have feelings with me anymore. It's clear he is dating her, am not being paranoid. I have not texted him since the breakup, which was through a chat. Do you think there is a chance it could be serious? Did I lose him a long time ago and should just move on? Please advise.
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    • Ryan - Ex Back Permanently Team
      Hi Rosa, Speculation may not give you any closure or information. If you guys have been dating for 3 years, it's highly likely that he truly loved you but something may have happened along the way. Firstly, give yourself some space and adopt the no contact rule. At the end of it, if you still feel that you want him back, I suggest you have an honest conversation with him about it.
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  • keirra
    Hi kevin im in a terrible situation and im so confused my bf and i of 7yrs and we also share a three year old. he cheated on me twice i have since left him and now his with the woman he cheated on me with. everytime we did drop off he would flirt with me. He tells me he will always love me but he is still with this other woman. After 3 months and he is still with her i made the poor decision of telling him i moved on with someone. he always thought i was cheating on him with someone from college but i never cheated. he did. after i told me he started questoning me about the guy and said he always new because i lied and told him it was someone from my college to make him jealous. How can i still fix us getting back together should i continue on with the lie and make him jealous until he wants me back? i still see him often since we have drop offs with our daughter. he is still with the girl he cheated on me with. please help i know i screwed up because a couple days before i lied to him he took me and his mom out for lunch please help me. thanks
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    • Kevin
      Hi Keirra, Tell him that you lied to make him jealous and that you need some time and space to heal from the breakup. Apologize for it. After that, start no contact. Don't reply to his texts or email no matter how much he contacts you.
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  • Andy
    Hi, My boyfriend and I were together for a year and 9 months, it was both of our first relationship and it was pretty serious and we were contemplating moving in together. In december I made a male friend who really bothered him and he was intensely jealous of this friendship and started acting out and being very mean towards me (reading my messages, saying rude things ect.). As time went on my friend and I got closer and closer because I was opening up about the emotional issues I was having in my relationship. My ex boyfriend broke up with me in march saying that I emotionally cheated on him (I don't disagree) and we continued talking about potentially being together until April when we went no contact and he moved on with someone else. In May I saw him and things went well, he was affectionate and listened to me; but he was very conflicting and told me things like "I hope you find what you're looking for" and then things like "I truly don't want you to give up on me." Then in june we stopped talking again for two weeks. Him and that girl are together now and I'm also seeing someone but my ex and I are talking again and have been for about a week. I want him back but I have no idea what to do because his texts are so dry and seemingly like he doesn't care and has actually moved on. I do know he stalks my social media everyday though and finally just deleted our pictures off of instagram and facebook. I should also mention we're two hours away from each other currently so seeing him is not the easiest.
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    • Kevin
      Hey Andy, The only way to get him back is be patient. I recommend you stop contacting him until he contacts you first. And if you are not in love with the guy you are seeing, breakup with him. You will not get what you want unless you start saying no to the things you don't want.
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  • Keisha
    Kevin please help me. Me and my ex were together 7 years. We broke up in October last year because I cheated . In february I began dating someone new and he made attempts to get back with me but I was talking to my new lover. The week before my birthday he brung flowers to my job and brought me a Mother's Day gift. We did sleep together after that we didn't really talk much. I just found he is seeing someone he says she's a friend but I'm not so sure. I miss him a lot and want him back but don't want to hurt my new lovers heart and apparently my ex and his new friend started talking. He is off Monday and we Are supposed to meet up concerning our son but I'm nervous. I am literally crying because I'm torn what do I do? Kevin please help
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    • Kevin
      Hi Keisha, Are you sure you want him back? Or are you just scared of losing him forever because he is speaking to someone else. You probably hurt him terribly after a seven years relationship and he has finally healed a little bit and is starting to pick up the pieces of his life. Please do not give him hopes of getting back together only to realize later on that you don't want him back. Take some time out and truly think about what you want. Get therapy if you are confused. I understand you are hurt but at one point of time you chose to cheat on him and leave him. There is a good chance you made that decision because you did not want that relationship. Nothing much has changed and if you go back, you might end up in the same relationship and the same boyfriend you cheated on. Do you truly want that? Or are you just feeling hurt because you are just realizing that your ex can move on as well? Grief is painful, but if you choose to not pursue him, you will heal and feel better. But if you give him hope and shatter it again, you will hurt him again and it will be cruel.
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  • Sarah
    My fiance of 8 years broke up with me and immediately started dating his coworker. He ended up moving in with her. We have been broken up now for almost 2 months. I did all the wrong things at first like begging him back. That pushed him further away. I started making as little contact as possible with us having 4 kids together. This past monday he come over and he started making passes at me. Then, he gave me a very deep hug, if that makes sense. If felt like he cared followed by a "friendly" kiss as he called it. He said we have been best friends for 8 years and wants to continue being friends. Tues, I had no contact with him. Wed, he started making sexual passes again. Later that night he called me to tell me his new girlfriend of 1 month and him got engaged. They both felt like it was the respectful thing to do for me to hear it from them. Thurs came, with more sexual passes. Friday, i made a huge mistake and met up with him. We ended up having sex. I know it was wrong and im not gonna do it anymore. Im gonna tell him tomorrow. What does this mean and do you think i still have a chance to get him back.
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    • Kevin
      Hey Sarah, You do have a chance. But you need to do no contact. His new relationship definitely looks like a rebound and will end soon. But if you keep being available to him, he will never realize how much he loves you and will never go through the grief. If you have to meet him because of the kids, keep your distance and don't speak to him. If he tries to speak or make passes, just tell him to stop and tell him you need some space and time. Be stern and strong. This is the only way to get him back.
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    • Sarah
      Thank you Kevin! Its been a few weeks since I posted this and I just now seen it. I had it in my head that I'd talk to him and I did and we both agreed not to do anything anymore. It wasn't just a few days of me having limited contact that he started doing it again. I'm ashamed to say I give in. We broke up once before and were fwb and got back together. I guess I was hoping for the same outcome. I am ashamed of myself and absolutely not doing it anymore. I'm gonna start the limited contact and keep it that way. I do have a question. Why is it that he asks me quite often if I'm talking or seeing anyone but yet has told me that I need to find somebody who makes me happy?
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  • Angela
    Hi, I was dating my ex for 3 years in which we had lots of ups and downs. Towards the end, I was not attracted to him and also felt he was prioritising work and family, so broke it off. He tried after our break up to get back but I was hurting. After a year, we got back in touch and planned a friend holiday and he started casual dating . I didn't expect it but that is making me question whether I have feelings as we have a great time together. Can u guide how to know if I'm over it or if I should try get back. We discussed it but he felt he was too hurt but still feels I'm his best friend. Much thanks, A
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    • Kevin
      Hey Angela, Just tell him that you are confused about how you feel and take things slow. If after 2-3 months of dating, you don't feel attracted to him and are still unsure, then talk about getting back together.
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  • Ben
    I was dumped almost two weeks ago by the first girl I ever fell in love with. I was the first boy she ever fell in love with, too. We moved out of home together and had lived together for three years. One week after she broke up with me I found out that she was already starting a new relationship. We were still living comfortably in the same house until then. I became extremely distraught and desperate. I fled home and in the next few days sent her many desperate texts and messages and cried in her presence twice while trying to be mature. She dumped me because I emotionally cheated on her by flirting online with other girls. I hate myself for it. I want to know if this new relationship is a rebound and if my desperate reactions over the course of three days will make it harder for me to win her back, if that is at all possible. Do you think she still loves me at all despite what I did to her?
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  • Emma
    Hi Kevin I was with my ex for 5 years, we spilt up 3 years ago, we have stayed in constant contact with each other and became the best of friends. I unfortunately moved on after a year of the break up, but still was friends with my ex. My ex hadn't moved on and made it clear he wanted me back. SO I decided I would take the plunge and finish with my current boyfriend to get back with my ex, unfortunately my ex was getting frustrated as it was taking so long, and sent me a shitty email. I planned to meet up with his to discuss, but couldn't be for 3 weeks as i travel with work. when I got back from my work trip I contacted him to arrange a time and he informed me he had met someone else!!! I was in total shock and felt devastated, he could wait 3 years but not 3 weeks.....it doesn't make sense! what shall I do? is there any hope for us? Now I am single, totally in love with me ex, but he now doesn't want me!
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    • Kevin
      Hey Emma, It"s possible that his new relationship is not a rebound and he has truly moved on. Maybe he was going out with that girl for a while and when you told him you want to get back together he decided to tell you that he has a new girlfriend. Unfortunately there is nothing much you can do right now except no contact and healing. If after a couple of months you still want him back, contact him.
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  • Mary
    Hi! I nees your advice please. Me and my ex broke up 6 months already. I havent contact him since our break up i follow the NC until now I blocked him on facebook and intsagram. But we have a group of friends. I heard that my ex's courting someone for about 2 months. I thought I moved on but I can feel the pain again. Our friends asked me if i still love him I reply them "Nope, Im done with him". But i realized that I still love him so much. What should i do? Please help me thank you in advance!
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  • Rachel
    Hi Kevin, During no contact, if you're still friends on facebook/have them on snapchat is it ok if they look at your posts?
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  • Lou
    Hi! I greatly appreciate this post. It's exactly what I'm going through right now. So here's my story: I just recently came from a breakup. But I can't really be sure if it's a breakup since there was never actually an us. I mean, we were not officially together. We labeled ourselves as best friends. So this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. He was just a typical friend of mine. We were friends for a year since I transferred school. Ever since I transferred, we never got to see and talk to each other anymore. That was in 2012. Came Nov 2015, all of a sudden we started chatting. We haven't talked for 3 years since 2012 so we were really just excited talking to each other again. Our friendship went back again and the longer we conversed, the deeper our connection got. We communicated through texts, calls and fb chat. Since then, we became officially best friends. We also got to hang out for us to see each other, which I think made us closer even more. This all happened from Nov 2015 to Jan 2016. Jan 2016 was the last time I saw him in person. Apparently, due to our closeness, we know we both had feelings for each other but the problem is that no one between us dared to open about it. I remember in Jan 2016 he asked me to hang out with him again. So we went to see movies and went to a theme park. I remember days before he told me how he was longing to have a girlfriend. And I believe that there was a hidden message in it. Its like he's trying to tell me that he wants me to be his girlfriend. Came Jan 19 when we went out, that's the time his interest in me was really obvious. He took a risk by holding my hand for the first time during the movie. When we went to the theme park, he hugged me on my waist from the back which I think is really really sweet and I miss that so bad. So the day ended and he dropped me off at a mall. Because of what happened throughout the day, I became really shy and speechless. I just hugged him and thanked him for the time he spent with me. The next day, we texted as usual. The days after that became a little awkward. Since we were texting but none of us again dared to open up about the recent hangout. I didn't say anything because I was expecting him to talk about it first since he's the one who first showed interest in me. But unfortunately, he didn't talk about it. As more days pass, our communication were not constant anymore. We used to talk day and night through texts and fb chats. But this time, we barely text each other until the day came when we did stop talking. I was so clueless as to why he stopped texting me like he used to. I know it was because things were going awkward between us. Since then, we didn't communicate anymore. Then came Feb 14 which is Valentine's Day. I was doing my school project and as soon as I opened my facebook, BAM! He got a new picture with his new girl captioned "Life Companion". Like everyone else, my hear shattered to pieces for the very first time. Since it was him I fell in love with the first time. My head was filled with thoughts and questions, mixed with different emotions. I cried of course. But after crying, I decided to message him instead. I told him that I was happy he met someone else, that he no longer needs to be sad since his longingness for a relationship has been fulfilled. I was also sorry that I didn't give that to him- that relationship he wanted from me. The reason for this is because that day I was just speechless of what happened but I was really happy deep inside. As a first timer, things like these happen. And I waited for him to speak up but we didn't talk about it. He actually replied, which just means we still remain as best friends. Since then we didn't communicate again until Mar 26. On Mar 26 he suddenly messaged me, sharing his story regarding the issue he's been facing at the office and he asked how my week went. I replied of course like a typical best friend. We got to chat again for like 5 mins. And then there it stopped again. Since Mar 26 until now, we still haven't communicated. I stalked his new girl's facebook twice. The first time I checked it, there were no posts so I assumed her profile must be private (since were not facebook friends). Then the second time I checked, I saw an album full of pictures of both of them with their friends hanging out at the same theme park where we hung out months ago. They seem or look happy though. But I still don't know if he's really over me. Our status as of now is that we're friends. I don't know if he still considers me to be his best friend though but whatever we're friends. But we don't anymore communicate like we used to. Is there by any chance this new relationship of his could be an example of a rebound? Is he really over me or has he moved on? Because in my case, I'm in the process of moving on. I'm trying to focus on other things but when I'm alone, I usually think of him and our happy moments-especially that day on Jan 19. Oh I forgot, the last time we talked which was days ago, his last message was about telling me I should enjoy life and he sends goodluck to my studies since I'm about to graduate really soon. He also mentioned that we haven't talked for a while. What could this mean? Does he still care about me? Is his new girl a rebound? Please help :(
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  • Karina
    Hi Kevin, I broke up with my ex 3 months ago because he started flirting/texting with this grl he works with. He started to act weird and I saw texts that were inappropriate, he basically emotionally cheated on me. I ended it but still wanted him, tried getting him back, but he didn't want to. We still kept talking for a few weeks after and I confronted him about going to this concert with that grl he was talking to. We got into a fight and I ended it with lose my number.. never want to talk to you. Two weeks later he texts me this long thing about clearing up stuff, telling me he didn't cheat on me, and how he pursued a relationship with the grl he was talking to and blamed me on why we broke up and said he still wanted to be friends.. I never responded.. Its been almost two months and hes still with this grl I think, im not 100% sure, haven't heard anything from him.. but I feel like I want to talk to him again.. I just don't know what to say, or if its even worth it..
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    • Kevin
      If it's been two months of no contact, you should contact him. If it doesn't work out, you'll know it's over and you will be able to move on.
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  • Jim
    We broke up with my girlfriend about 8 months ago. She wanted to leave the relationship and in the end I had no choice than to agree to the break up (she thought then it was mutual). We were together for 4 years. We are both over 20 years old. She was an exhange student in another country and during this period of few months she said she doesn't love me in the same way as she used to. There was no other guy in the picture then. I cried a lot and acted desperate, i just wanted her back. I failed a lot because I became so needy and asked many times does she have any feelings and does she miss me... After our break up she said she still has feelings towards me. She said things like "i dont think its impossible that we would be together again in the future". It felt like she would want a break and see how things will go after that. I went nc for 2 months after break up. Then we met in the summer at friends party. She wanted to meet me someday. We were talking casually and she was very very emotional. We talked for 3 hours. She told me that she had crushed on a german guy when she was an exchange student in sweden. She said she knew he liked her. and the guy listened to her about the break up etc..... Isn't this a sign of rebound haha? I was also hanging up with another girl in the summer. We added pictures to instagram but not about ourselves. My exs friend had noticed this and told to her. My ex asked about this girl when we met after break up. I just said we are just friends. Afterall I couldnt be with this girl because I felt so bad. I had just seen my ex and my head was just messed up. We went to our homes after that meeting. Before I were going to sleep, I said I will be always there for her. During night she was rushed to hospital because she had fainted many times at home. The weird thing was that I saw a dream about this. Exact thing happened. I guess she just had an emotional overload? In the morning when I woke up to go to work I almost threw up after I saw that dream, it was so realistic. Then I checked my phone and she had sent messages what had happened. I went to see her after work. We saw couple of times after this and everything was fine. I even bought her flowers and chocolate on her birthday. I made plans with her father that after she comes home from work i will go there and wish her happy birthday. She was amazed how I suddenly appeared there and nearly kissed me. One day when we were partying together she started to hold my hand and call me honey, my love etc.... it ended up having sex at her place. Then the next day she cries that she doesnt have any feelings towards me. We met like 2 times after that and then I said I cant be her friend. She was totally devastated because of this and asked who will be there for her then? And again after 2 months we met at school. Now she seems like a cold person and acts like she is over me. Anyway, she came to see my new apartment and we talked about casual things again. After her visit she hoped that she wouldnt make me more hurt by this... Now strange things started to happen. Friend of my ex invited me to her party. We had a fun night there but I noticed my ex was laughing a little bit too much and tried to laugh out loud. It felt like she is trying to show me that she is doing better. Next day I heard my ex had asked from her friend that do I know that my ex is going to germany to meet her exchange student friends and THAT GUY, most likely. At that day we talked with her in skype. I even asked if she was trying to make me jealous and put up my evidence in front of her (even friend of her didnt understand her behaviour). She denied everything and got a bit upset. Said if I act like this she will not talk to me. We got closure on some things. She was quite emotional and said I was a good guy but the problems became too much in her mind. These were for example doing the dishes etc... stuff like this. Its easily fixable but I cant understand why she didnt want it.. (After the break up she didnt see a reason to continue our relationship). Anyway, we talked for 2 hours and had fun. We both smiled and laughed a lot when we were thinking our memories.. The next day I felt that my lifepower was so drained. I had to make a hard decision again and I wrote her a text. I said " I should have said this earlier but I respect your decision to pursue your dreams and goals that you want to achieve. You know that you are important for me and I appreciate you but I think that we cant be friends in a normal way before I can be a complete person again. I did this because I want to continue my life and forget her. But leave hope for the future we will talk someday again, maybe. I dont want to see her with another guy and this hurts me. She already went to visit the guy in another country. Any chance to get her back even though i have been acting so stupid? We had a great relationship but in the end it was too hard for her to talk about our problems.
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  • Hannah
    Hi Kevin, So me and my ex were together for 5 years, we had a child and were quite happy. But one thing after another happened, i got depression and his family left him, alot of pressure was added to the relationship so it ended, we have been broken up for 14 months now. He has slept with 2 people since then and has his eye on a girl but not in a relationship yet. He only remembers us fighting in our relationship and not all the good times we had, i did the no contact thing and have now said to be just friends to work at getting him to see we did and still can get along without fighting, Iv spent the last year improving on my mental health and myself and have made huge changes which everyone can see. But i still miss him so much. I dont know how he feels about me, i mentioned the being friends and he came over that night and tried to sleep with me again saying he wants to know what it feels like. Im so confused. Does he still like me or is he in two minds of his own weather to move on with this girl or try with me. He keeps saying we wont get back together so iv dropped the idea all together and since trying to build a friendship for our daughters sake he has become a little more interested. I want to know if he is just using me or if there is something still there and i have to just be patient and show him who i am now. I used to be happy and confident and funny when we first met then went to a dark place and thats all he sees anymore is the memory of the darkness. Im trying so hard it kills me when he says about other girls to me but then when he comes and tries to sleep with me i end up so confused. help x
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    • Kevin
      Hey Hannah, Just be yourself and let him slowly see the changes you've made in your life. Don't sleep with him until he commits. He is probably confused about what he wants in life and you should not try to pressure him into something right now. Give him at least a few months to notice the changes in you. Have fun with him and try to enjoy yourself. If after a few months, he doesn't make a move, tell him that you are interested in rekindling the relationship. If he still doesn't want to commit, you should try to move on.
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    • Hannah
      Thank you, i did end up sleeping with him :( i know i shouldn't have, would i still be able to do everything you said but if he tries again to stand firm and say no? I was just so happy he came round and talked to me my feelings got the better of me but since then we are talking everyday but just as friends as he is interested in another girl but wouldn't get in a relationship with her because of us always fighting :s I don't mind if i have to wait because to me he was the one, we were planning on getting married but then through the stressful times i caught him sending pictures to a girl so kicked him out, he fought for me for a bit but i was to angry but once i calmed down it was to late and he preferred friends. I have fought for him but given up and decided on making a friendship to get him to remember how we are together its just extremely difficult with a daughter and another girl maybe coming in the picture x
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    • Kevin
      Yes, you should still do the same.
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  • Rooman16
    My ex broke up with me because we didnt talk a lot because i was really busy and when i did i got nervous and its been 6 months i tried to get her back once he was hot for a bit and then went completely cold and say no she is dating someone else now and im pretty sure she knows i still have feelings for her and were in grade 10 and i have two classes with her and i have to sit beside her cuz my classes have a seating plan so i dont know what to do about the NC rule please help
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  • Melanie
    Hi Kevin My ex (22) broke up with me(25) little bit more than 2 month ago. We were together for a bit more than 1.5 years. The breakup came totally out of the blue for me and all he was able to say was that he's not sure anymore and that it has some family reasons (I haven't got the same nationality as him and his parents want him to get a girl like that). For the first 4-6 weeks we saw each other every weekend while beeing out and that wasn't really helpful to the situation. So when he left for vacation 4 weeks ago I started NC since we wouldn't be able to bump in to eachother during that time. Shortly before he left we went out for a drink and that I could give him his belongings back. That day he told me that he misses and thinks of me a lot but not in the way he thinks he should miss a gf and that he's not over "us" but that he still thinks his decision was the right one otherwise he would have come back to me... But I think even if he thought the decision was wrong he wouldn't just because of the CONSISTENCY. So I just ended the 30 days of no contact and did exactly what you wrote in the 5 step plan. I changed a lot about myself and my life... Unfortunately he never contacted me during that time. Do you think that this is a bad sign? what would you do in my situation? Thanks in advance Melanie
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    • Kevin
      You should contact him even if he doesn't contact you.
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    • Melanie
      But since I am not 100% sure that I'm ok with the fact that we might not get back together, should I wait a little more? Do you think there's still hope for us even after what he said and the fact that he didn't contact me? Thanks
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  • ailana
    Hi Kevin, My husband and I have a 20 plus year relationship consisting of being best friends (with benefits), having a child, becoming a formal couple then married (9 years total/ 6 married). I know why he left basically and I agree the old relationship needed to change, and it was beginning to,but he felt it was too late and he was tired so he chose to leave. He became interested in someone else before leaving then ended up seeing her ( he says they are only friends who sleep together) and has been seeing her for almost 3 months at least. He says he likes being around her cause she is not smarter than him, she listens to hat he says and doesn't argue back like how things were in our old relationship, I almost feel bad for her. During this time he has never denied me support, be it financial, familial or whatever. I believe its something in between a rebound and a serious relationship partly because I think she may be expecting more than he is likely willing to give, she has a young child and I know my husband does not want to father anyone elses kids, also she is around half his age. I understand he is getting the good feeling being with her that was lacking for a long time in our marriage. I know it could last for ever, I just don't think it will but I'm still not happy about it. I'm wondering what your thoughts are on this. I will be attempting no contact after my birthday party he is throwing for me this week before he takes her on a mini trip for the weekend. Am I being delusional thinking his new relationship will most likely not last? Is it unrealistic to think that I can get my husband back under these circumstances?
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  • Girly
    I did all the mistakes mentioned above, and even worse; I tried comitting suicide and let my ex boyfriend know about it. He told me I was obssessed and the suicide thing scared him off and that he doesn't think he'll get back with me in the future. What do I do?
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    • Kevin
      First of all, don't ever do something like that again. As you have already seen, it doesn't help you get your ex back. And if at any moment you feel suicidal, call suicide hotline. Here's a page with suicide hotline numbers. http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html As for getting him back, read the 5 step plan and follow it.
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    • ailana
      I just wanted to comment on your suicide attempt, no one is ever worth anything that serious. If that is the path that you felt driven towards, you really should get help to find out why you have such issues within yourself. I have not been suicidal but I sought out help for my internal battles and I pray if you ever feel that urge again, you do the same. Aloha, Ailana
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  • Ella
    So what if he cheated with his new girlfriend on me ( But I didn't know he had a girlfriend). He still wants to be friends and likes me etc. But after his girlfriend found out he suddenly wants to commit to her and she forbids to have contact with me. He didn't block me from anything. Does this mean he completely moved on?
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  • Julian
    Hey Kevin, I have seen many other girls and I have thought that I still want my ex back. Sorry for my long messages. I like to give still a summary and I like to hear is it any change get her back. It's been three months since break-up and NC about 1 month now. First she was angry and emotional and right away she start to dating the other guy but still talked bad about girls who might like about me. I tried to convince that everything will change and I love her. She put on the facebook many posts like ''smile through tears'' and other stuff but now she have removed those after my needy action. I made many mistakes. They spend lot of time together and they seem to be in love and she wished me good luck for future. Should I wait some time like 3-4 months and apologize my action? Or is it better leave her alone completely (maybe she wants that)? It's very possible that we see each other on the bus someday. Should I be positive and be nice and make jokes (normally I am that kind of) or should I just say hey and keep it calm?
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  • vic
    Hi Kevin. Before I read your article on dis, I had been on a no contact unknowingly, cos I left for school but when I came back she sent me a message on social media apologizing for all the pain she caused me, and dat she wanted us to be just friends. I rejected it nd began to plead with her for us to continue d relationship nd she refused. I think I blew my chance of getting her bk wat do I do?
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  • Marie
    Hey Kevin, I dated someone off and on for 10 years through high school and college. We have been long distance for about 9 of those years. We have been broken up for almost 2 years. We were not on the same page; I wanted to settle down and he did not. I stuck it out even though things were rocky until I learned of a situation he lied to me about, so I ended it. Over the past 2 years, we have been in contact and he would take me to dinner etc. He would tell me he wanted a future with me, but he is incapable of a relationship right now. He has been seeing someone new for 4 months. When I questioned this new girl he told me nothing was going on. Then I saw a picture of the two of them last month and I called him out on it and he told me it's complicated and they are not serious. I let my emotions get the best of me and I contacted the new girl telling her that my ex tried to see me in May (which is true). Ironically, after I contacted her they made it official. Now, they seem to be connected at the hip and he told me to move on, let this go and if we come back to each other then we know it's meant to be. It has only been 2 days since we last spoke, but I am starting the NC now. What is your take on his new relationship? Is it a rebound, that has turned serious? Why would he lie for months about her? I have been putting myself out there and going on dates, but I am scared my feelings are still very strong for him.
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    • Kevin
      Hey Marie, It could be a rebound. This is what happens with rebounds. If you try to break them up, they try harder to make it work. He was lying about it because he didn't want to lose you and didn't want you to move on. There's still a good chance it'll end. Continue with NC. It'll definitely help.
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    • Marie
      Thanks Kevin. I appreciate your advice. I do think at first he lied so he wouldn't lose me. The last few times we spoke (before NC) he told me to move on. I was agreeable. What is your take is on him telling me to move on now? As far as NC goes, what should be my game plan?
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  • Stacy
    Hey Kevin, thanks for the advice so far. My ex and I have been broken up for about four months now. Right after we broke up he went straight into a relationship with another girl which ended a few weeks ago. I found out a few days ago that there was another girl involved. He was seeing these two girls at the same time. However I heard from a friend that he isn't seeing the second one anymore but they are close friends, but another friend told me they might still be together but he's not sure. Do you think its a rebound or is it possible that he might actually become serious about this second girl?
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  • Julian
    Last week I saw my ex and her boyfriend walking and holding hands in a shopping mall near where I live. It has nothing to do with me because my ex goes from work to home subway there. I got emotional and walked past them and I said "is it possible" or something like that. My ex said "what do you mean?" I just walked away. One of the mutual friends told me that they spent a lot of time together. In the relationship I was cold and didn't gave enough love. My ex was sad because she didn't got what she wanted from me and she felt outsider in my life. After break-up this two months I have been so emotional and push her away from me and I was not at all rational and now I see what I should have done. I still can't believe what happened. Before I was the one who always make the decisions now everything chanced maybe it's what I deserved after cheating and other things. It feels weird that she loves the other guy so fast and it's feel more weird if she doesn't have any feelings for me. One month ago I saw her eyes that she was sad and cried and she wished nice summer but after that she have been very cold. The new guy is more muscular and more manlier and more charismatic than me but somehow I know that he isn't my ex style. But that doesn't help if she doesn't miss me at all. All the signs and acts are so obvious now that she doesn't want me back and doesn't like me anymore. We are still friends in facebook so maybe one day when I hopefully get beautiful girlfriend she thinks me. But I don't want to hurt any one and there have to be some feelings. People always earlier said that we are most positive persons and our children would be so cute. It have been therapeutic to write here and I have to say thank you very much.
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  • Neil
    Hi Kevin ,my case is very different,v were in relation from almost 4 yrs in which we were best buddies before that 4 yrs means frm last 8 yrs v knws each other,v met on orkut,i hd gf that time, i used to share evry single thing abt my relation to her,then she started falling for me,she proposed me, i said no,cz i wanted 2 be her best frnd only n i was loyal wid my that another gf,still she wanted me,so every time she used to make me feel n total 13 times she proposed me,der was sum other rsn of family issue thats why also i never wanted to mess my best frndshp,then i had to ignore her bcz of her behavior,then she got bf in college,but unable to b hapy then she msged me to she want to get rid off that guy, i helped her,till time my another gf cheated me i was so depressed,in that time,my this gf started taking care of me n i falled for her,v came in relation,it was good untill she was carefull, frm last yr everything started messing coz she unable to give me time & love due to job n i started expecting more cz v used to meet daily,talk daily n now i was crazy for her n day by day everything was stopped,she used to fear me alott coz i slaped her & abused her when i got to know her past relations which i got to know from her fb ids n yahoo chats,I was helpless to be overreated n I apologied for that mistakes,eveytime i used to talk rudely bcz of her no love n no timing policy,last year in one fight I called her home n her dad picked up the call, her dad got to know abt our relation,they checked her mobile n saw my abusive msgs for her family, so she told everything Abt me,n from that time all messed,we used to talk about marriage also but from that day she lost all hopes of marriage n everything, she started giving me very less love,still I managed to get her back,in between of this last 1 yr her parents got 2 know 3-4 times that v r in relation agn,but sumhow she managed that time n sum days i used to make her fall me agn, now from last mnth again sumthing her parents got 2 know n she started ignoring me ,i waited 6 days n asked her rsn on call many times,but every time she refused n ignored me,then on 7th day I went to ask her near her office bus stop, she saw me n started saying go or i will inform my dad,i was shocked with her behavior, she refused to talk, i was clueless i said i will do sucide if u dont talk to me,listen me lets clear but she agn n agn said to go,she even called her mom, n grabbed her cell,n pulled out its battery,ppl started staring at us so i told her lets cross the road n i started moving but till time she taken the help of vehicle & left that place & i started searching where she gone , after some 35 mins i got call from her number & she said talk with my mom,yes she informed her mom that I came to meet her to force her, her mom abused me insulted me, her mom said isnt she told u that she is getting married ...i was like what ??? Hows that possible..I was in shock, her mom started blackmailing me & i never wanted to face this to my family coz my parents are weak by health which my gf was knowing it,i cried alott, used to think agn n agn how this possible,after sum days i again forced myself to ask her coz it was driving me crazy,i tried to catch her many times, infact my one female frnd met her to discuss about how much i love her, my gf cried that time n said even i love him ,my frnd thought she will come back,my frnd after 4 days started calling but she ignored n msged her that i dont wana contact him, i dont wana talk with you n anyome then again i started to go near her office but due to her frnds group never able to meet but one day i able to meet her n i asked politely ki i wanaa talk she refused but i calmly asked then she said ok n then i started telling her how much imp she is for me,i cried very badly in front of her, i fallen in road while walking as i had no energy,but she didnt felt anything for me,i forcefully said her to hug me,she hugged me after lots of begging,she was getting angried only n agn n agn was saying that it is our last meeting & v wil talk but rarely & accept the fact that i am marrying,i asked her abt his husband she refused to talk anything she said i never told u bcz u were in exams n never wanted to give u tensions in exams but mom told you thats why accept the truth & forget me & leave me( i still dont have single proof that its true coz there are loads of things i have seen which indicates she was lieng maybe bcz of parents torture ??? ) then she started using whatsapp(yes i never let her to use whatsapp coz in fb only lots of ppl started proposing her, i always stayed away her from Males bcz i never wanted to loose her anyhow, her past only used to force me to do all things but i never failed in giving love which is most imp), i somehow managed to get her new number of whatsapp & she was shocked by seeing that i got her new number also of whatsapp ..she got to know i am always onlinr then she blocked me by saying her sis got to know v again talking each other, then after sum days she changed her whatsapp status to sad one like killing herself with gun, i was started thinking what shd be happend,n worried so i went to see her agn near her office busstop , i was at long distance but she saw me then i tried to talk with her but she left that place by getting cab n after sum mins agn i got frm her mom n this time her mom very much angried ..n then her dad called me n started blackmailing that v will do police case, thanks to my sis who managed to talked with them ,v thought its over but after 2 days her dad complained to police , police called me once but i ignored the calls,then my phone was off, now v r no more in contact , after some days i started expressing my feelings that how much u cheated me, how much i loved u, u used me like this on whatsapp status n dp on my other numbers then she also changed her status that " u r biggest mistake of my life & i am still paying for it " " you hv no right to judge me " & blocked my other numbers too..then i came here read your all posts, felt better that i have some hopes,i changed my dp to normal one & normal status,but i feels she is moved on,she used to chat on whatsapp for late night with sumone till 2.30am,yes its daily,i have no idea who is he/she but its killing me,she is still online but when v had relation she always used to sleep on 12 am or before only then what is this now, she used to recharge her number every 2 days means she is calling someone also,she blocked my emails ,contacts everything when i tried to send her old memories pics but insted replying she blocked me..n msged me once that i dont want to c u agn, dont interfer in my life or she will complaint to there family again,i have no idea what to do now i am ready to do no contact rule but since my case is very different ..do you think will it work ?? What if her mom was right that she is marrying but if its true why she will put such status on whatsapp?when her bf or husband can see it?? I have no idea what is truth n what is lies, but when v had relation she never told abt marriage & but it is also true that she chats 24hrs these days even though she gets tired from office works,if its bf i can get her back with ur help coz i have seen her true love before , you know her love forced me to accept 14th proposal..there r lods of things she did before to express her love..so it is difficult for me to accept that she is same girl who used to force me for marriage,so plz guide me ,what shd I do ? I still have sum hopes n never wanaa giveup unless I get to know she is really happy with her bf/husband, you are the only hope/god/frnd for me now,i will do everything even its painfull to get her back, Plz answer this i searched aloot but never able to got answers which are regarding how to behave on whatsapp/social networking sites : 1)how should I behave on WhatsApp I mean I believe she unblocks me atlst once in a week to check my status n DP ..should I show her I moved on ? 2)should i keep my own dp wih happy pic ? 3)what kinda status should i put on whatsapp for same? my current status is : Eat = sleep = rave = repeat 4)should i show her that i moved on with my career ? 5)should i show her that i got new gf or sum kinda such girls ? 6)should i make her jeolous by keeping girls dp with me?? 7) m planning to show her that i am leaving my state should i ? 8) even she do not unblockes me she can check my status n dp through her frnds number so in that case what to put & what to not ? 9) how to react on facebook though i belive she have created fb a/c this time again which is not tracable. 10) i blocked her..should i unblock her? if yes when ?? as i have been accidently unblocked from her whatsapp due to format of her device, so i blocked her before she could. Thing is I always used to say u r worst,u did everything bad with me, everything happens bcz of u ,my ex was better than u,I usd to blame her Lott cz seriosly she not even meets me easily, i used to make her feel that dear m ur bf n v r in relation..so she used to say that i will die n you will be happy forever means she wanted me to be happy n if i showed her that i moved on then maybe she will like it coz i always blamed her for every single thing,today I realized how much wrong I did ..but she also knows how much I truly loved her n how much mad I was for her..she knows everything that I will never hate her, yes never..which I proved even after my police case incident ..by texting that how much I love her ..n how much I care for her..plz kevin ..this is almost 25 days gone without her..my frnd saw her near one hospital so I worried n msged her by taking risk that what happend tell me I will help you, I am always der for u, but instead replying me she blocked me on gmail ..n that time it was 12 am n she Was online as usual with Sumone with late night . she is proving day by day she don't want me but I don't wanaa loose her, I want to show her I have changed n I wanaa give her every piece of happiness , please help what should I do ! the guys with whom she is chatting is grabbing her from me, i can see that she is not sleeping also for chatting which never happened with me before,if its true, how she will miss me ?? when her new bf or sumone is not letting her to miss me anymore...Only her late night online whstapp freaks my mind badly ..I goes mad..n I can't msg her also coz she can complaint to her pshycho parents & they can do anything to me, ( i really have no idea whether she said atleast once to her parents that she also wants me or not) , I can't even express my feelings anymore bcz of her blackmailings ..plz help Kevin,I admit that I was over possesive for her,not only whatsapp but she recharged for calling pack,she also used to recharge within every 2 or single day, which indicates that she is really moved on & loving someone..but i dont know whether he is new bf or her upcoming husband,she is not keeping any status but used to change dp with happy faces, i cries every single day, i pray for her ,i am still crying while writing,i have no single frnd in my life cz i was so envolved in her, she was my day n night,she was my everything, its killing me that how she forgotten me easily,its all about 8 yrs she is everywhere for me, one incident also happnd that she used my route & by bus to go one station which was very weird,coz route to go stn was different in her ares but still choosen my bus which goes from my home road..my sis saw her n asked her y ur here,she fears alott, she was on call that time with heavily makeup...so i alwys thinks that maybe she might felt that i will see her in same route,maybe she also miss me? i never seen her roaming anywhere,but what she do is only whatsapp & calling.plz help kevin, u r the only hope now,i dont wana move on,i want to grow only with her, my age is 24 n her 23, we lives in india,today she enjoing her life allott by making me forever alone, i will never able to love agn anymore now, i will never marry any other girl, i also blocked her just for doing no contact but i dont think there is use anymore, plz be my god n help me, m ready to do every single step..
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  • Jim
    So my I hastily asked my ex to try again and he said no and he doesnt think we can be friends either. Hurt me quite a lot and I gave up all hope on him. He told me he was scared because he still has negative association. I told him I would text him on his Birthday. This was yesterday. Now I text hey happy birthday. Sorry its late I was at work all day. Hope you have had a lovely day and have a lovely holiday next week. He replied immediately saying thanks. I said your welcome and then immediately he replied "Lets meet up when I come back from my holiday..." Now this brought on shock, nervousness, horror, happiness and excitement all at once. My mum said from day 1 that he will be back after his holiday. everything my mum predicted has come true so far. I'm hoping he wants to meet so we can move forward as I dont see no point in meeting to be negative. I am just so nervous but again I am so excited. I am having a lot of doubts about whether we will go back to how we were or whats gonna happen or whether my guilty conscience will drag me down again. But I want to start a complete fresh start and have our relationship built on trust and honesty. Also taking it slow as we were so intense before and literally was with each other every day. Ill keep you posted how it goes in 2 weeks time but thank you again for helping me get back to me :) For anyone doubting their situation like I did. It is not the end of the world and even if they are with someone else. Patience surely is a virtue. Remember "Anything could happen" stay happy stay strong and dont let your ex rule your life no matter how much you love them.
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  • glorious
    dear kevin you helped me alot for getting back my boy!thanks
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