He has moved on to a new girlfriend. And you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. After all, you are still madly in love with him. It can be a gut wrenching feeling to think about your ex boyfriend (who you still love with all your heart) in someone else’s arm. The idea that you might have lost him forever can be heart breaking.
Fortunately, you can still give it another try before completely giving up hope. Just because he has another girlfriend doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t win him over.
A Complete Guide
Before we begin, did you read my step by step guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back? If not, click here to read it now. It’s the most comprehensive guide you will find on the internet and it’s free. So go read that guide first and then come back to this page for advice pertaining to your situation.
(Note: Read this article if you are a guy looking to get his ex girlfriend back when she is dating someone else)
What we will talk about in this article.
Here are the things I’ll cover in this article.
- What to do if it is a rebound relationship?
- What to do if it’s not a rebound relationship and he has moved on?
- Tactics to win him back from his new girlfriend
- How to make him meet you.
- What if his new girlfriend doesn’t let him talk to you?
- How to make him leave his new girlfriend.
Is it a Rebound Relationship?
For all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. This new relationship could actually be just a rebound. As you might have heard before, rebound relationships usually end as quickly as they begin. In fact, statistics show that 90% of the rebound relationship end in a breakup.
If this is the case, then you will have to let his rebound relationship run its course. He will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. If you try to interfere or try to convince him to breakup, then you are only going to make him want to stay in the relationship. All you have to do is follow the 5 Step Plan to get your ex back and you will most probably have him back in your arms.
Has he Really Moved On?
Perhaps it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. Perhaps his new girlfriend is not just a rebound but someone serious. Perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new relationship to work.
If that’s the case, then I’ve got to ask you something. Why haven’t you moved on till now? What has been stopping you from moving on? Is it the fact that you still love your ex boyfriend? Have you even made any effort to move on?
Listen, there is still a chance to get him back. And that involves following the 5 step plan listed here with a few adjustments that I mention below. But the real question is, do you really want to sabotage his new relationship so you could give it another try? Do you really think that he will be happier with you than he is with his new girlfriend? If so, then read ahead.
How To Get Him Back From His New Girlfriend
Now, if he has a new girlfriend, and it’s not a rebound, then you have some serious trouble. Before we begin, I must warn you that your chances are very less and you should know that you might end up hurting yourself more.
The first thing that you need to do is stop contact with him. That’s right. I know it’s a little counter intuitive but it’s for the best. Yes, there is a chance that he might forget about you, but it’s a chance you have to take. Especially if you have been trying to contact him for a while. (Read Why You Should Wait Before Getting Your Ex Back).
After you’ve been in no contact for a while, it’s time to contact him again. However, you must know the timing has to be just right. If he stays in the relationship with his new girlfriend (who is not a rebound) for a long time, he will get more invested in that relationship and he will be less likely to come back to you. You will have to hit the sweet spot when it comes to timing. You have to give him just enough time to miss you, but not enough to completely forget about you.
How To Contact Him?
Text messages. I do recommend a letter in the 5 step plan, but if you are trying to get him back from his new girlfriend, text messages are the way to go (Read this article for a more detailed guide on texting your ex). The reason is simple, text messages are private and she is less likely to find out about them. Even if she does, she is breaching his privacy, which means less attraction points for her.
Remember, to build attraction slowly using text messages, as mentioned in this guide. Do not be direct with your intentions.
What if she does not let him talk or message you?
If your ex’s new girlfriend does not let him stay in contact with you, and your ex boyfriend is agreeing to her, then this means that he has completely moved on and is heavily invested in his new girlfriend. Guys don’t usually let their girlfriends tell them who to contact unless they are serious about the relationship. (Note: If your ex boyfriend is refusing to talk to you read How To Get Your Ex Back When He Won’t Talk To You?)
At this point, there is nothing you can do. The more you try to contact him, the crazier you will look to him. The best thing to do in this case scenario is to move on. I am sorry to say this, but you really have no chance of getting him back unless they both breakup. You can sit and pray that they’d break up, but I wouldn’t count on that. It will be better to just cut your losses and try to move on.
How To Make Him Meet You?
Once you have established good communication with him via text messages and established that you are no longer a needy and clingy person, you should try to set up a meet. Again, don’t call it a date. Just keep it short and simple (as mentioned in the 5 step plan).
How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Breakup With His New Girlfriend
Unfortunately, you can’t make him breakup with his new girlfriend. It has to be his decision. Once you have gone out with him a few times, and he has seen the new and improved you, he will himself start wondering whether he should give it another go with you. This is assuming that you followed the step 3 in the 5 step plan(the no contact rule and working on yourself).
If you are confident enough, you can bring up the topic of getting back together yourself. However, make sure you don’t sleep with him unless he commits. You might have to ask him to choose between you and the new girl. Let him know that you can’t be friends with him and if he chooses her, then you can’t see him again. And you should stick to your words. If he does choose her, you should move on and remove him from your life completely. It might be the hardest thing you ever have to do but it’s the right thing for you. Remember, this whole thing was to just try getting him back one more time. If it didn’t work, you have to accept your loss and move on.
On the other hand, if he does choose you, then you should understand that the reason he chose you is because of the new and improved you. He chose the girl who is confident, happy, and secure. So if you want to keep him, you better keep those attributes as well.
By now, you should have a pretty good idea about what to do and how to get your ex boyfriend back. Again, if you haven’t read the 5 step plan to get your ex back, click here to read it now. It’s the most popular article on this website and I have seen this plan work time and time again. If you’ve already read it, here are a few more articles that I highly recommend you read.
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